useyourwords

ohh ((((windblown)))) I am so sorry it was a rollercoaster. But it was NOT all for nothing! It sounds like you are in a good place to move forward today, reaffirm old boundaries and add some new ones, and have a plan in place for a good day that will be about *you*! Stay strong.

"The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain" -Kahlil Gibran

Chino

I agree it wasn't for nothing, as you learned and reaffirmed from the experience.

It took me a couple of years to learn to stop counting on my then AD to follow through. I learned to do whatever it was I said I was going to do, then let it go.

Prayers for your serenity and your son's recovery.

JMFburns

You do not need to be sorry for anything.

The more you work your recovery the easier it will become, the quicker you will remember to - take a step back and not get caught up in the insanity, to have faith in your HP to provide you with guidance and serenity and live your life (not try to live your son's).

It has been said here and it is one of the phrases I like: Work the program you wish they would. (Not work their program that you think they should! But work your program as diligently as you feel your addict should work theirs.)

Have a calm, relaxing, normal evening w/your husband.

dollydo

I am sorry, however, you are right, this is typical behavior for an addict. They get you all riled up and upset and they don't show. Their behavior drives me nutz.

Set your bounderies, stick to them....and....get to those meetings.

Sendings hugs your way.

hope213

i once heard.. do not worry until it is time to worry. your time has not come to worry. hands off the addict..period!!