dollydo

Maybe you ought to work on your drug issues too. You are not only setting a bad example for your children in regard to your husband, but, your smoking weed, to me, is not acceptable behavior in the home of a minor.

Your general mindset makes no sense to me, I cannot identify any one priorty in your life.

hello-kitty

This is a great time for you to focus on your own emotional and health issues. Those are things you might be able to change. As you get better maybe the solutions to your problems will become clearer. It's always easier to make wise choices when we are healthy. But we can't get healthy when we are focusing all of our mental energy on someone elses problems.

Farfalla

I don't smoke weed where are you getting that from!

Farfalla

He said he likes taking prescription medication and smoking weed not me!

Farfalla

I think you need to re read my post!

Farfalla

Dolly do you need to re read my post I did not say I smoke weed I was stating what he said to me!

dollydo

Ok, sorry got it.

Farfalla

Thank you. I never smoked weed or did any drugs a day in my life!

Farfalla

I went to therapy this evening. I set boundaries and goals for myself. I bought boundaries in marriage and codependent no more tonight at Barnes and noble. I sent my husband a text.
I love you. What is best for our family is not having the influence of drugs in our home.

Windblown

I wouldn't let him back in my house. I would change my phone. I would consider a restraining order. I would change the locks. I would notify the neighbors and the police...don't worry...the cops won't arrest him or anything...but you will be notifying them of potential future problems.

He's sick. You are not going to make him better. Maybe one day he will decide to get better....but we are never the ones who do it....ironically. Start living...try alanon or naranon meetings...read the literature. That is what I am doing. And it is still very hard...but each day gets a little better. I am glad now that my AS chose to leave. I too have a myriad of mixed emotions going on every day. I didn't realize how sick I was until my AS left and I started working on me. I got a long way to go...but I'm wanting to live now and I can see that somehow my life will get better.