jacksdaughter

Are there any red flags to look for when you suspect your adult child is using again. I really felt he has been clean for some time and was doing great. Just recently his engagement fell apart and for the first time when I saw him last night I thought "oh no" he's using again. I have been having dreams lately that he was and when I told him about my dream he was very evasive with an answer to my "it's not true is it". I don't mean to sound naive but I have a way of always only see good, or maybe it's just simple denial. Thanks for any answers you may have.

cc88

yea the biggest red flag is that you asked about red flags. If you have to ask, if you have a feeling, if you're asking others what they think, 9.9 times out of 10 yes. hes using again.

p.s. im sorry for what you're going through. I realized after that that might have sounded cold. I have a mom who keeps saying to me

"but what if im wrong?! what if hes just tired from working so long?!"

I dont appreciate someone making my mom out to be a fool so my heart goes out to all moms and it makes me almost as upset. Hug.

jacksdaughter

I guess it's true even our dreams seem to tell us what we already know

outtolunch

On a bad day, I sometimes worry about worrying about red flags, if and when.

I catch myself and stop because my daughter owns her own recovery, or not.

We are all works in progress.

TMZ

Lack of money, sleeping a lot, dilated pulps, drugs on the floor, needle caps, the list go on Kind of depends on drug of choice.

I could always tell his behavior would change, and a few hours later change again. normally a quiet kid, but he would talk a lot and I mean a lot when he was using.

Not sure if is what you were look for.
Sorry your having to deal with the disease too.

jacksdaughter

Thank you all so much!