Freedom1990

Mom just got a call from my granddaughter's stepmom to tell her both are in jail right now. It's drug-related, and my granddaughter tried to take all the blame.

The only other thing that I know is my granddaughter will NOT be allowed to return home with AD, and step-mom and dad are going to ask for full custody.

It breaks my heart to think of my teenage granddaughter in jail, but I am so incredibly grateful she is being taken away from AD.

I knew the day would come when something serious would happen. It was only a matter of time.

Please pray for my granddaughter, AD, and me.

suki44883

How sad. Prayers coming your way and theirs.

dollydo

Oh dear, I am so sorry. Lets hope that your grandaughter will learn something positive from this experience.

Sending support and hugs...Dolly

Freedom1990

Called the step-mom directly. My granddaughter is incarcerated at Bob Johnson's in Hutchinson. It's a juvenile lock-down facility and the same place Amber was incarcerated after she ran away at 15. Not a pleasant place at all.

There is a hearing tomorrow that the dad and step-mom will be attending, and they are hoping my granddaughter will be released to them. The social worker said granddaughter has two choices-her dad and step-mom's, or stay incarcerated at Bob Johnson's until she is 18.

I don't think she will choose the latter. Sitting behind bars with an orange jumpsuit and slippers on isn't very appealing.

At any rate, she will not go back to AD's.

I think back to visitation with Amber at that place, and it breaks my heart to think of granddaughter there.

Perhaps this will change her perspective on life. I just don't know.

Addiction is so damned ugly.

Seren

Oh, my! Is this the same girl with the quirky sense of style smiling out of the school photo not too long ago?

That does break my heart!! Prayers for all involved......

YearForMe

She is so lucky she has a grandma in recovery.
I can't imagine what it's like to watch....yet another generation slip into the darkness.

Prayers for you and yours.

Freedom1990

Yes, same girl! She was doing fabulous at school, but God what a mess outside of school apparently.

It sickens me that she was willing to take all the blame for the drug charges so her mother wouldn't get in trouble.

My AD has been brainwashing her for years. It makes me want to vomit.

I took care of granddaughter as a baby more than AD did.

I hope she is required to attend counseling and work on this horribly unhealthy relationship she has with AD.

Seren

I hope so, too, DeVon.....

steve1840

Hey-
I am sorry to hear about your gd, so young for that, but i hope that a new environment wil turn that all around.

Freedom1990

Dad and step-mom are about 60 miles from the juvenile facility. They are only 20 miles away from me, and about 45 miles from AD.

I've got such a headache, yet I do believe it's a wrapped gift as you say.

I "thought" I was prepared for inevitable news like this, but it shook me up more than I anticipated.

I knew nothing good was going to come of it when her dad allowed her to go live with AD. Ugh.

laurie6781

I know this is a 'horrible' situation right now.

However, like Anvil I do believe this is a 'blessing in disguise.'

You have been so stressed over this situation for so long, I do believe HP has decided th time has come to answer your prayers. Looks like HP wanted granddaughter to have 'an awakening.' There is nothing like a 'lock down juvenile facility' to give a teenager 'an awakening'!!

Hopefully, as you said the social worker will get gd into some counseling. Sounds like she will be a lot closer for visiting now than she has been for a long time.

I am asking HP to watch over you AD and to allow here to receive the consequences of her actions.

Prayers going out to ALL of you.

Love and hugs,

Freedom1990

Just this past year granddaughter started refusing to come and visit me, which was hard for me to take. She stayed glued to her mother in a way I have never seen before, and it disturbed me greatly.

I always enjoyed the time spent with her when she was coming to visit, so I pray she will want to start coming again.

I suspect AD will serve a lengthy sentence as she has been on probation for years and has never gotten all of her fines paid off (about $1200 worth).

YearForMe

You sleep well knowing you have placed them in God's loving hands.

Say a prayer, take a deep breath. And hold on to that faith.

cece1960

I'm sorry Freedom. I will indeed include they and you in my prayers.

cmc

I'm sorry that it's come to this but have hope that these circumstances will provide a good opportunity for both of your girls to make some positive changes.

I'll be saying some prayers for you, AD, GD and your whole family.

****** DeVon }}}

catlovermi

I too think this is a gift, wrapped in very ugly paper.

But there has to be something very good about the bad circumstances forcing her to break the enmeshment with her mother, then getting some hopefully healthy family structure in the very few precious years she has left as a minor.

I hope for you that this will be a good turning point, especially in her relationship with you.

CLMI

Chino

Prayers on the way for all of you.

Though your GD might take a while to adjust, she'll be exactly where she needs to be and the same goes for your daughter. The best part is, you had no part in this and will get no blame. I believe it took every bit of being powerless for this to finally happen, and I have faith that all will work out as it should.

God bless you and yours DeVon; there's a very bright light shining at the end of the tunnel for all of you

Freedom1990

I hope there is, Chino. I've just got to have faith and let it go.

It's hard because my heart hurts today. There is just no getting around that.

dollydo

"Addiction is so damned ugly. "

I so agree. Your granddaughter has been exposed to a lifestyle that no child should have
to deal with. Sometimes it becomes cult like, and children are so impressionable.

As difficult as it is, try and maintain a positive attitude, your granddaughter now has a
chance, something she did not have while living with your daughter.

As ever, your friend.....Dolly

Freedom1990

Thank you so much Dolly. I needed to read this. I needed to read everything that has been posted.

I am so incredibly grateful to all my supportive friends here on SR.