She's left home (a really good thing)
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She's left home (a really good thing)
My daughter has been addicted to narcotic pain meds for over 3 years . However after three years of mistrust fighting anger saddness for both of us she successfully came thru a 30 day rehab . Then she and her family moved to a new home so I could keep the original rental home . I'm happy about all of this but still very fearful that she'll relapse . Because she's going thru a lot right now on top of the move and rehab her husband caught her cheating on him . I really didn't know but he has decided that I've know all along . I'm trying to be her for both of them they want to work thru this . But feel like I'm saying the same things over and over again . I need some advice they are codependant on each other also ...
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You are in a much better position today now that you no longer have a front row seat. Rehab teaches them to face life on life's terms and she knows where support is if she needs it.
Sometimes too much damage has been done in a marriage, sometimes it can be repaired, but either way this is something she will need to work through herself. It's nice that you are there for support too, but that doesn't mean you need to become enmeshed in their lives.
Live well, find joy in each day, and let life unfold however it happens. We can't change others, we can't change the future but we can change our choices to healthy ones for us.
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Sometimes too much damage has been done in a marriage, sometimes it can be repaired, but either way this is something she will need to work through herself. It's nice that you are there for support too, but that doesn't mean you need to become enmeshed in their lives.
Live well, find joy in each day, and let life unfold however it happens. We can't change others, we can't change the future but we can change our choices to healthy ones for us.
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When I begin to realize that I'm saying the same thing over and over again.....I know it's time to stop talking. They heard me the first 5 or 10 times. lol These days I try to say what I want to say once. It'll either stick or it won't. Saying or doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result is the definition of insanity. I was "there" for a very long time.
I'm sorry that you are feeling anxious. Breathe deep and let go. You have no control over your daughter or your daughter's marriage. It's up to them. It's important to care and support, but in the appropriate way.
You, your daughter and her husband will be in my prayers today.
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ke
I'm sorry that you are feeling anxious. Breathe deep and let go. You have no control over your daughter or your daughter's marriage. It's up to them. It's important to care and support, but in the appropriate way.
You, your daughter and her husband will be in my prayers today.
gentle hugs
ke
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