dollydo

I think this is worth a read.

Enabling Personality | LIVESTRONG.COM

Ann

Now Miss Dolly, if you are going to write about me, I want royalties, ya hear?

Lordy, I am grateful it's been a while and I no longer suit that list, but I have to tell you that pre-recovery I would have ticked yes to every one of them and probably added a few of my own.

I didn't know. Really I didn't. I thought I was helping. I thought I was doing what I needed to do to "save" him. I thought it showed love.

As Jon, the founder of SR, used to say "We just might love them right into their grave".

Thanks for this reminder. it's good not to be there anymore.

Hugs

lonelystar

Thank you for that dollydo

yes I am an enabler and although I have learned some here, I clearly need to learn alot more. At times Im good and dont give in to my enabling but it sneaks in and takes control over me, consumes me , and I know Im doing it.
Im hoping god gives me the strenght that I so need at this point in my life.

LifeRecovery

Thanks for this.

Though a lot of those items are not "knee-jerk" response any more they are still there and if I don't take care of me they come out to play (and wreck havoc).

Kindeyes

Oh Ann.....how on earth could you think that was about you? I'm sure I was the subject of that list! But if there are royalties....I'll split 'em with you!

ugh......I hate reading stuff like that.....it's a painful reminder of what "was" and what I could easily slip back into if I didn't pay attention (and I do occasionally stick my toes in those co-dependent waters--guess what--it's full of sharks!)

gentle hugs
ke

dollydo

I was so happy, I answered every question...I passed, I passed! Then I realized this was a test I needed to fail! Just my luck, I finally found something I know alot about, and my knowledge is all wrong!

KariSue

I refuse to answer this question on the grounds that it may incriminate me.

Kari