Letting Go of Old Beliefs - Language of Letting Go
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Letting Go of Old Beliefs - Language of Letting Go
Letting Go of Old Beliefs
Try harder. Do better. Be perfect.
These messages are tricks that people have played on us. No matter how hard we try, we think we have to do better. Perfection always eludes us and keeps us unhappy with the good we've done.
Messages of perfectionism are tricks because we can never achieve their goal. We cannot feel good about ourselves or what we have done while these messages are driving us. We will never be good enough until we change the messages and tell ourselves we are good enough now.
We can start approving of and accepting ourselves. Who we are is good enough. Our best yesterday was good enough; our best today is plenty good too.
We can be who we are, and do it the way we do it - today. That is the essence of avoiding perfection.
God, help me let go of the messages that drive me into the crazies. I will give myself permission to be who I am and let that be good enough.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
Try harder. Do better. Be perfect.
These messages are tricks that people have played on us. No matter how hard we try, we think we have to do better. Perfection always eludes us and keeps us unhappy with the good we've done.
Messages of perfectionism are tricks because we can never achieve their goal. We cannot feel good about ourselves or what we have done while these messages are driving us. We will never be good enough until we change the messages and tell ourselves we are good enough now.
We can start approving of and accepting ourselves. Who we are is good enough. Our best yesterday was good enough; our best today is plenty good too.
We can be who we are, and do it the way we do it - today. That is the essence of avoiding perfection.
God, help me let go of the messages that drive me into the crazies. I will give myself permission to be who I am and let that be good enough.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
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I think we codies too often believe what people tell us...we should try harder, we should do more, we should be how "they" want us to be.
I know I used to believe that and no matter how hard I tried to be a people pleaser, there was always someone not pleased with me at all.
Well today I say "Rooty Toot Toot" because recovery has taught me to be the kind of person "I" want to be and the heck with what anyone else thinks. Recovery helped me get to know that stranger called "me", and it helped me get to like her, warts and all.
Today I do my best, which is better some days than others and far from perfect. But today it's enough and I can feel good about the person I am...regardless of what anyone thinks.
Today I don't have to like everyone and everyone doesn't have to like me. If they think badly of me, or try to make me feel "less than", it's all on them, they own it and it has nothing to do with the person I am today.
CatsPajamas here has a signature that I just love...it says "What others think of me is none of my business".
Today it is what I think about me that matters. What is in my heart is more than good enough.
Hugs
I know I used to believe that and no matter how hard I tried to be a people pleaser, there was always someone not pleased with me at all.
Well today I say "Rooty Toot Toot" because recovery has taught me to be the kind of person "I" want to be and the heck with what anyone else thinks. Recovery helped me get to know that stranger called "me", and it helped me get to like her, warts and all.
Today I do my best, which is better some days than others and far from perfect. But today it's enough and I can feel good about the person I am...regardless of what anyone thinks.
Today I don't have to like everyone and everyone doesn't have to like me. If they think badly of me, or try to make me feel "less than", it's all on them, they own it and it has nothing to do with the person I am today.
CatsPajamas here has a signature that I just love...it says "What others think of me is none of my business".
Today it is what I think about me that matters. What is in my heart is more than good enough.
Hugs
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