mooselips

Hi everyone,
Well, as you all know I've been having a difficult time conversing with my oldest AS, who...supposedly is ...sober. (I have my doubts, secondary to his verbal abuse)


about 3 weeks ago, he was terribly nasty, and I kind of held my ground with : "uh huh, yep...could be, uh huh...sorry, can't hear you well....bad connection....my phone is dying...."


Anyway, he swore at me and hasn't called for 3 weeks now, AND he took me off his FB page! ha ha ha

And younger jailbird son, I wrote to him, sent him a couple envelopes, and I worte, "Do not call, you can write. If there is an emergency those nice people at the jail will contact your dad and me."
Well...he hasn't written.

So, I am kind of basking in my joy today, kicking up my barefeet.


Silence IS golden.

Love you all.........

Chino

Way to go Mooselips!!!

We teach people how to treat us and you're doing a great job

Ann

Sshhhh!!! Do you hear that??? It's the sound of recovery at work.



Way to go, Moosie!!!

mooselips

Seriously some days, I could use that lady's ear horn. Is it an ear horn?

What the heck is she sticking in her ear? LOL

Kindeyes

Mooselips
Enjoy the peace!
gentle hugs

ItsmeAlice

When I finally stop struggling to communicate with toxic people...I can hear the most amazing sounds.....my cat can seriously snore. Really, that furball can saw logs. Who knew??

The peace in your post is palpable!

Alice

Anaya

Peace...ah, yes...how nice that sounds. Good for you!

Ann

Yes, it's an earhorn. I found one in my Recovery Survival Kit for times like this when it was peaceful and I wanted to listen to the silence.

I love silence. Often when I am home alone, I have no TV on, no radio or music...just silence. It's a lovely sound.

Hugs

mooselips

Hi all,
Still dealing with the "uglies" of the oldest son.


Altho he's not calling, he's making comments on FB if I reply to the baby momma....which is none of his business.

Wish I had an Iggy button.

Dignity

Hi Moose~~I can relate to being taken off of the sons facebook page. I was also. I also haven't had too much interaction with my son for quite some time. It is peaceful but makes me wonder what's next. As far as I know, my son has been clean since Xmas and working his program. He disappointed us so severely I wonder if our relationship is ever going to heal. Its so sad.......and I miss him but theres nothing I can do to help his situation any more........Good for us!

Habit

Dignity, I am there right with you. It is very sad. I have had NC with our AD for several months. I miss her also. But, I don't miss all the heated arguments, drama, and verbal abuse.

Today, I read "Courage to Change" (Al-Anon Family Groups) "Gradually I accepted the fact that my 'if only' wishes were not about to come true. But I also learned that I could be happy even if they didn't."

I am not "there" yet. For sure. However, I see progress. In the past, if my AD was not happy, I was not happy. My HP is showing me that my happiness does not have to depend upon her actions.

Kindeyes

Amen

Ann

Ditto amen from another mama who's been there.

Iggy schmiggy, Moose, you just be your wonderful self and a pox on anyone who doesn't like it...including relatives.

Love you lots. Must go find my Iggy Schmiggy T-Shirt now.

Hugs

mooselips

Well, I'm pretty sure he's using again, for sure.
He is threatening Baby mommas BF that if he sees him he will kill him, and gladly go back to jail.

It's this kind of stuff I don't need to see.
I do believe I fixed the problem though, he had ME blocked, but I didn't have HIM blocked.

He is now, and I also deleted his email.

So there.

Everybody...all together now.............Ahhhhhhhhhhhh

EJG123

Nicely done.

greeteachday

You beat me to it Moose...i was going to ask why you had not "unfriended" him. Good for you! FB can be a front row seat to the drama as easily as having it in our homes.

Hugs...Enjoy the peace!

keepinon

Exactly why I don't do FB..!

mooselips

I like FB and it keeps me up to date with far away relatives and friends.


My son, for sure, is not going to keep me from doing things I enjoy, or take pleasure in doing.

Dignity

I love facebook. So many of my relatives live out west. This way I can stay in touch much more so than I would with picking up the phone.....

Chino

I recently removed one relative, one friend, and one business associate from my news feed. I found myself reacting to some awful things they posted, and came very close to responding. Then I heard a distant echo about that front row seat