tam

I have learned that I never want to go through this again

Dignity

This time I have learned that I need to distance myself from my son'
I have learned that I am stronger than just a mom that needs to protect her son.
I have learned that I can live my own life~~~~but I have alot more to learn about how do to that..

Spiritual Seeker

I have learned that I still have a lot to learn.
I have learned that when someone offers...accept.
I have learned not to give unsolicited advice.
I am leaning how to live w/o my son.

hope2be

In early recovery, I have learned
- to take a breather b/f deciding irrationally
- my thinking processes have been screwed on wrong and I need to change the hardware
- love the calm, no matter how brief.

ZombieWife

I have learned that I WILL BE OKAY.
I WILL survive.
I am strong enough to do this.

MsPINKAcres

I have learned usually in the midst of my darkest, saddest times - the God of my understanding - gives me a special blessing ~ one exclusively and taylored designed just for me - to remind me that I am not alone!

Abundance

I have learned:

My reality is true to myself and not to allow someone else's reality be mine, but shared in a way that I am true to myself and feel good about it.
(that right there is like a full circle dealio- which I am MOST proud of)

To live and let live.

To be aware of projection from others, but also what I project onto others might be something I don't like about myself.

There are many paths in all of our journeys - some just can't be taken together - for the sake of sanity and serenity.

There are tools in codie recovery and - they work - and to keep coming back!

mooselips

I have learned to talk less, and listen more.

Hope44

I have learned (and am still learning):

That when a mother first realizes a beloved child has become a heroin addict, it feels like her entire life's work has gone up in flames.

That I am only an imperfect parent raising imperfect children in an imperfect world. Even God has trouble with His children....

That addiction brings into one's home an unseen yet very real evil, but prayer and the power of God are victorious over evil, every time.

That sometimes God answers no to our most earnest prayers, that He might answer our deepest longings.

That worship and worry cannot live together in the same heart. It is one or the other, but never both at the same time.

That when you place a person in God's hands, at some point you begin to see His fingerprints all over her.

To hope in God, not in the thing hoped for.

katie44

1. I have learned that I consistenly have to work my own recovery.
2. To love my son from a distance.
3. To set boundaries and stick to them,
4. I have learned to distance myself from chaos for my own mental well being.

EJG123

I've learned that SR is a great place for support. Thanks to everyone here.

Cupicake

I have learned that
...boundaries are important and I have to let my boundaries be known because assuming someone knows them may be expecting too much
...my gut instinct is usually right
...I should not be held accountable for or hostage by someone else's actions
...living in great sadness, fear and doubt is not living at all
...it is very very important to love and respect myself
...sometimes people don't want advice or be told what they should do. Most times they just want a non-judgmental understanding ear listening to them.
...I have to fight for the life I want rather than taking a back seat and hoping things will turn out okay
...saying "No" is okay
...I don't need to please others and it is okay that others get upset at me for it
What a great post!
Thanks...it does feel good to put it down in words.

Ann

I have learned that God's gifts often come strangely wrapped. What appears to be an obstacle may really be an opportunity to try another path.

I have learned that bad days don't last forever and some days just "are".

I have learned to laugh at myself more and to love myself, warts and all and not worry about being perfect.

I have learned to pray about anything and let God sort out the junk.

And most of all I have learned that this journey is way more fun when all of you walk with me.

Teggie

I have learned.....

To finally let go.
That there is life after addiction.
That I am much stronger than I thought I was.

Hugs,
Teggie

Dustygirl01

I have learned...that no one is blinder than he who will NOT see.

MsPINKAcres

I have learned . . .

it FEELS like I will always suffer consequences from my ex's behaviors due to his alcohol, drug and gambling addictions ~ no matter HOW long we have been divorced. . .

I must constantly remind myself that FEELINGS aren't fact and that someday, somehow - this too Shall PASS

lightseeker

I have learned:

that this is a journey that I don't want to do alone (and can't)
more will always be revealed
that addiction s*cks
that addiction can be lethal to your health even when you don't use
that there is always hope
that boundaries are imperative for my own sanity
that I am only as sick as my secrets
I am not alone
the steps will show me the way
if in doubt, don't
to keep unsoliticited opinions to my self
that no matter how long I do this I am still a beginner