Short Update
 

on my son! He's been in rehab for about a week and a half, has about 2 weeks to go. I don't know anything about plans for afterwords yet and am not worrying about that right now.

He has called his Dad quite abit (some calls because he needed clothes and toiletries etc, some not.) and one of his sisters. He has not called me, nor his other sister.

This bothers me, because if he were truly getting the program, I think he would call me, but there is nothing I can do about it, and I try not to let it bother me often, or much.

I've sent him a couple cards, one with $5.00 for cigarettes. I don't feel like that is doing too much right now, nor doing too little. I think it's up to him now to contact me. He knows I love him. His dad also told him that we had discussed the commitment (which we had) and that he fully supported me in what I did, and that Dan should call me.

I'm busy with the holidays, working, and sewing. Each time I've planned to go to a meeting we've been hit w/a foot of snow or more. I'm not giviing up though, but time is getting short before the holidays. I'm also dealing with an x, the divorce has been final for over 2 years and he hasn't taken me off the mortgage yet. He has no motivation to refinance and the judge in court yesterday didn't see it as his jurisdiction to order it. We're regrouping and will be going back to court again after the holidays.

Anyway, that's the update for now. Thanks again for all your support!! Really, I'm not worrying, or being very bothered by his not calling, I've done all I can and he knows how to reach me, just a little sad that he might not be working the program to it's fullest.

FGB

Sounds like you are staying grounded..now get some snowshoes and get to a meeting!:lmaojk it may take alot longer than 2 weeks for him to really "get" the program..he was pretty progressed in his disease and 2 weeks is not that long so you just keep on doin all the good stuff you are doin!

FGB,

It's ok to be a little sad about it. The good news is that your not letting the sadness rule your world like we a lot of the times do. Good for you!

I just sent my brother/addict/alcoholic a box of stuff to the halfway house he is staying in. I wondered if I sent too much though. But I'm the big Sis and I sent it anyways. I don't want to do too little or too much either. But I don't know where to draw the line. I think you sending the $5 for ciggs was a good thing. Just enough to let him know you care, but not enough to be enabling.

Take care of you...

FGB,

I've been thinking about you and looking for an update from you, thanks.

I hope you make it to a meeting - there is always an excuse for me not to go to one of my meetings, but I'm always really glad when I do go. The snow dumps have been a struggle.

Take care, Joan

(((FGB))) - thank you, so much, for the update. I've been keeping you and your son in my prayers.

Yes, it does take a bit longer than 2 weeks, and I can only tell you of MY experience...the ones I hurt the MOST, I felt the most guilt about and it took a while to get over that guilt and reach out to them.

I think the card and cig money was a nice gesture. I understand the sadness, but I think you're doing remarkably well. Hope you get some better weather, soon. I have relatives up there, and they've been pretty snow-bound, too.

Hugs and prayers,

Amy

Sending you hugs of support, dear! :hug: