caileesnana

Since my last log in, things have spiraled downhill again.

My beautiful AD, clean for 2 years, has relapsed AGAIN--4 times since April.

Each time is worse. This time she is charge with burgulary of a vehicle-a misdeameanor.

I just got a call from the "pretrial center" and she could get out for $45 as she meets their criteria (no trouble before). She needs a permanent place to stay. I said no.

Part of me is proud of myself I stood firm, the other is dying inside at the thought of leaving her in there. The officer said she still had the street, F you attitude, and ultimately, didn't ask for help.

Because it is not drug related, they can't mandate her to treatment.

I felt if I got her out, that would give her a free ticket back to the street. If she hurt someone or died herself, it would be on me. Plus, I know her and this is not my first go round. But the hurt is just as bad.

Please say a prayer for me to continue to receive the strength I need to do what I should, not only for my AD but my precious grandson.

Many thanks,
susan

suki44883

You did the right thing, Susan. You can't help her. She is right where she needs to be. At least she is safe, has a bed and food. I know how hard it is to watch someone you love slowly destroy themselves, but she is the only one who can change it. Hang in there, you did good!

MsPINKAcres

((susan))

my heart goes out to you - I know how difficult that must have been for you

Please give yourself a BIG BIG PINK HUG from me and know that yes my friend ~ whether she ever acknowledges it or not - you have done what is healthy and loving for her and for yourself.

You have allowed her another chance to reach within to find that self-worth, self-esteem and self-love of wanting something different in her life to fight it's way against the disease to come thru and have a place in her life again ~

Will it? of course we don't know - but I like to believe that every consequence is also an opportunity.

Take good care of YOU!!!

HUGS,
Rita

hello-kitty

Thanks for the update. Sorry to here she's not doing well.

Chino

Like the others, you did what you needed to do for yourself.

Please accept that she put herself in there, and it was never based on what you would do.

You all are in my thoughts and prayers, for serenity and sobriety.

sadday0211

How strong you are. Give yourself a hug and then hug your grandson.

litehorse

susan - you did a very hard thing - i certainly hope no one else will step up and get her out - that has happened with my son a few times and it is very frustrating - you, your grandson, and your daughter will be in my prayers

Freedom1990

Susan, I am sorry for the pain that this brings you.

You have done the right thing.

She made the conscious choice to pick up and use again after two years. Don't soften her fall.

When I relapsed after 4 years, I am so grateful there was no one to pick me up.

When I got sick and tired of being sick and tired again, I went back to my home 12-step group and started over again.

Sending gentle hugs to you and your grandson.

lightseeker

the good news is that she does know how to get sober and hopefully her bottom will quickly appear.

I'm sorry about the the recent relapses and can't imagine the pain that you have been going through.

You and yours are in my thought and prayers.

keepinon

I really think you did the right thing..

BBD

Susan, My heart and prayers are with you tonight. You did the right thing. We keep reading here that we have to stop helping for our children to get better. Try and rest and know your Daughters HP has an eye on her...Mom hugs coming your way

chicory

Susan,

You must be strong, for her , for you , and that little sweet grandson. This is a safe place for her to think about her life. With the attitude she has right now, she deserves to be where she is. She needs to do some big thinking. She, you and the grandbaby are in my prayers.

chicory

greeteachday

Susan, got you both in my prayers. I'm sorry she is getting worse but you absolutely did the right thing to not make her worse and to save yourself as well. Bailing her out would only enable her continued use. Hang on and keep reaching for support. Hugs

tjp613

Praying for your continued strength...and serenity. (((Hugs)))

Ann

My prayers go out for her too, and for you and that darling child.

Doing the right thing can be painful...but it's still the right thing.

Sometimes we have to love them enough to let them find their own way. Sometimes we have to love them enough to say "no".

Hugs from one mama's heart to another's.

outtolunch

Hats off to you for giving her the dignity of realizing the consequences.

Regardless of what happens going forward, it's her choices, not you, that are responsible for the consequences.

Impurrfect

(((Susan))) - as hard as it has to be, I think you're doing the right thing. I'm sorry she's messing up, but it took me getting sick of the consequences to choose recovery.

Big hugs and prayers to you all!

Amy

Suspicious

She is safe where she is at right now. She knows what is needed of her to get back to recovery. You know and are doing what is needed to keep yourself in your own recovery. You and your daughter will be in my prayers.

JMFburns

Just wanted to let you know that you are in my thoughts today.

MsPINKAcres

Hey susan

How you doing today?

just checking on ya & sending out good thoughts & PINK HUGS!!!

Rita