ladyamalthea

Would it be a bad idea for me to reach out to my aunts and uncles? On one level, I feel like I would almost be betraying my parents by spending time with their siblings without them, especially since they would be an obvious topic of discussion. And I wonder if it would be harder to stay detached from mom and dad if I am in contact with their siblings. On the other hand, I don't think I want to detach from the entire family, and I am pretty sure they are more level headed.

Thoughts? I am really on the fence on this one.

suki44883

Reach out for what? Validation that you are doing the right thing? Is there some other reason why you were needing to contact them, or were you just wanting to talk to them about what's going on with your parents and your sister?

ladyamalthea

Yeah... it's kinda a combination of those three, leaning strongest towards wanting to get them to be the voice of reason to my parents. But then I also know my parents haven't listened to anyone else yet, so probably they wouldn't listen to their siblings either? Maybe it would be best just to do nothing right now...

ladyamalthea

It sounds silly now that I actually read what I just wrote, if that makes sense. Definitely backing away from that idea for now... lol.

Freedom1990

Isn't it marvelous to see the process of typing it out in front of you, getting feedback from others, and making a healthy decision for yourself?

That is how a lot of my learning has taken place.

I call my sponsor my 'sounding board'. He listens, and then offers his input.

ladyamalthea

That's basically what happened here. Calling them sounded like a great idea until I typed it out and read it... lol. I will definitely not be calling them anytime soon.