Should i be worried
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Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: minneapolis, mn
Posts: 2,762
Love,
Your ex-addict-boyfriend is disturbed. He is emotionally sick. He "didn't care" because he had already started in with a replacement.
Remember this: IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU!
Abusive people always act out and act against the person they are closest to, and feel safest with. Their bull sh!t ways are always about THEM, and their deficiencies, not their "victims".
You are gonna feel really awful for awhile, BUT IT WONT LAST.
I am worried about the extreme-ness of your anguish. Can you find some professional help? Will your mother help you in this?
Your ex-addict-boyfriend is disturbed. He is emotionally sick. He "didn't care" because he had already started in with a replacement.
Remember this: IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU!
Abusive people always act out and act against the person they are closest to, and feel safest with. Their bull sh!t ways are always about THEM, and their deficiencies, not their "victims".
You are gonna feel really awful for awhile, BUT IT WONT LAST.
I am worried about the extreme-ness of your anguish. Can you find some professional help? Will your mother help you in this?
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Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Virginia
Posts: 685
Love,
I was in the same position as you two months ago (minus another woman)... just keep coming here. I took him back 2-3 times in the last two months, and always, always regretted it. I said the SAME things as you, "he's done with me this time", but he wasn't. He always came crawling beg, begging me through tears. You can expect him to do that.. but try your best to be firm in your decision.
You broke up with him for a reason. Don't forget that. I agree with coffeedrinker, see if you can get into some counseling of some sort. At least stick it out here --- figure out what you want for yourself.
Can this guy, really make you happy?
I was in the same position as you two months ago (minus another woman)... just keep coming here. I took him back 2-3 times in the last two months, and always, always regretted it. I said the SAME things as you, "he's done with me this time", but he wasn't. He always came crawling beg, begging me through tears. You can expect him to do that.. but try your best to be firm in your decision.
You broke up with him for a reason. Don't forget that. I agree with coffeedrinker, see if you can get into some counseling of some sort. At least stick it out here --- figure out what you want for yourself.
Can this guy, really make you happy?
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Seattle, WA
Posts: 3,335
Honey. You are going to get through this and you will be stronger and better for it.
Take all that energy you were focusing on your exboyfriend, and focus it on making your life better.
I can tell from how you write that you are a very smart girl. You are going to figure out solutions to your problems and you are going to come out on top. Just keep moving forward with your personal goals in mind.
There's plenty more jerks where he came from. If you should decide that's what you want in a relationship...
Take all that energy you were focusing on your exboyfriend, and focus it on making your life better.
I can tell from how you write that you are a very smart girl. You are going to figure out solutions to your problems and you are going to come out on top. Just keep moving forward with your personal goals in mind.
There's plenty more jerks where he came from. If you should decide that's what you want in a relationship...
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Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Virginia
Posts: 685
Why not check the county mental health places? I went to one, and therapy cost me $3 a session, I kid you not.
There are ALWAYS options. If they don't offer that, there are always support groups.
It's easy to make excuses... I've done it all my life.
There are ALWAYS options. If they don't offer that, there are always support groups.
It's easy to make excuses... I've done it all my life.
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