Language of Letting Go - May 27 - Recognizing Choices
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Language of Letting Go - May 27 - Recognizing Choices
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Recognizing Choices
We have choices, more choices than we let ourselves see.
We may feel trapped in our relationships, our jobs, our life. We may feel locked into behaviors such as caretaking or controlling.
Feeling trapped is a symptom of codependency. When we hear ourselves say, I have to take care of this person . . . I have to say yes . . . I have to try to control that person . . . I have to behave this way, think this way, feel this way . . . we can know we are choosing not to see choices.
That sense of being trapped is an illusion. We are not controlled by circumstances, our past, the expectations of others, or our unhealthy expectations for ourselves. We can choose what feels right for us, without guilt. We have options.
Recovery is not about behaving perfectly or according to anyone else's rules. More than anything else, recovery is about knowing we have choices and giving ourselves the freedom to choose.
Today, I will open my thinking and myself to the choices available to me. I will make choices that are good for me.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
Recognizing Choices
We have choices, more choices than we let ourselves see.
We may feel trapped in our relationships, our jobs, our life. We may feel locked into behaviors such as caretaking or controlling.
Feeling trapped is a symptom of codependency. When we hear ourselves say, I have to take care of this person . . . I have to say yes . . . I have to try to control that person . . . I have to behave this way, think this way, feel this way . . . we can know we are choosing not to see choices.
That sense of being trapped is an illusion. We are not controlled by circumstances, our past, the expectations of others, or our unhealthy expectations for ourselves. We can choose what feels right for us, without guilt. We have options.
Recovery is not about behaving perfectly or according to anyone else's rules. More than anything else, recovery is about knowing we have choices and giving ourselves the freedom to choose.
Today, I will open my thinking and myself to the choices available to me. I will make choices that are good for me.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
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I was "stuck" in my codependency for many years, living in fear and sadness and anger...and then I found recovery and learned that I was choosing to be stuck and that I DID have choices, including the choice to live better and healthier.
Each day, I get to choose. I can choose a day of stress, regrets for days gone by, fear for days to come...or I can choose to live in gratitude for all the many blessings life and recovery has given me, I can choose to see the beauty in the day and embrace the challenges that may come my way because that's how I learn, that's how I thrive and survive.
How will you choose to live today? What choices to make your life better will you make and follow with action?
Hugs
Each day, I get to choose. I can choose a day of stress, regrets for days gone by, fear for days to come...or I can choose to live in gratitude for all the many blessings life and recovery has given me, I can choose to see the beauty in the day and embrace the challenges that may come my way because that's how I learn, that's how I thrive and survive.
How will you choose to live today? What choices to make your life better will you make and follow with action?
Hugs
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