how can I?
 

Is there a way to find out if the person is taking Suboxone? I read online and it says that it does not show on a regular drug test... Any ideas?

Thank you!! :gaah

I did.... And he said that he is not taking them, but when I was driving his car the little bag fell out with Suboxone... I guess I know the answer my self....

Anvil took my answer! :yup:

:) close! his excuse was that these were old and he took them while he was still trying to get clean. And he still has that bag to prove me wrong that he's not taking them . Bunch of BS... oh and that if he was taking suboxone he wouldn't be taking AMBIEN to go to sleep.

i hope so... first in was methadone, then hell, relapse, clean, relapse, and now i'm guessing suboxone... great :scorebad

Hi. Good to see you! Sorry that you're still dealing with the same song and dance though - trying to make a relationship with someone you can't/don't trust is exhausting. Did you ever end up marrying him?

hello-kitty, No we never got married, I actually stayed away from him for 3 month. Tried to date, went out with friends, started medicall school and then I found out that he went to detox and few weeks after that we started talking again. He started going to kick boxing gained few lbs :) but now these pills... I guess some people never change

What I have found is that I don't even need to ask the question "are these yours", "are you using", "where were you last night" etc. These questions just set me up and it really didn't matter. I can tell when my AS was clean so just having the "feeling" that I needed to ask the question, pretty much answered the question. The answers to these were of no value.

It's part of what I used to do as a codependent, constantly! Well now we kicked our AS out. I pray to my higher power to take care of him and cry when I need to but I (we) am moving on. I have found that it is a tough and exhausting way to live. I also attend meetings regularly which has helped me a lot.



Take good care ((())). Kelly

When someone is in a Suboxone Program, they are prescribed the medication. MDs/pharms do not put meds in plastic bags.

Sounds more like Plan B, if the DOC is not available or something to trade for the DOC.

Oh well. Either accept him as is or move on, cause the the tween place is called hell.

Thank you!!
Yes I know that he is probably taking it. And he called today and said that he wants to talk to me about the whole suboxone thing and its not a telephone conversation... he will come over tonight .
I've been helping him, i feel like i need to finish this process... and let him make his own choices. Really, by him telling me that he is confused and he doesn't know what to do , and that he is scared to relapse? there is nothing I can do, right?

Outtolunch,

Yes, my gutt is telling me that he takes these everyday. He sees his addiction specialist once a week and he prescibes him AMBIEN for his insomnia thats he's having after getting clean. His excuse is that he wouldnt be having insomnia if he was on suboxone. but I guess tonight i'll find out more... hopefully!

anvilhead,
helping, by staying away and let him find the way to his recovery... and when he got clean i came back.
He also wants my advise about a job offer that he got, its good money, but in the area where he used to get his drugs. I said that it is up to him, of course there is a bigger chance of him relapsing while he is there. but on the other hand, you cant hide, you got to face it....

People serious about recovery do not buy drugs off the street in plastic bags.

The effects of Ambien are similar to that of benzos, like Xanax and Valium.

I have had chronic insiomnia for years and have never once taken anything to assist sleep. I know that sooner or later the body wears out and will sleep without any medication.

Anvilhead,

You are right...
as to the reason he would lie? because he knows that if I found out that he is on Suboxone i would leave him again...