an addict is an addict. and...step 2?
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an addict is an addict. and...step 2?
hey there.
so i just went and gave the chat room a whirl.
while there, i found myself in a triggering conversation, where there was a person saying she wished her alcoholic sig. other was a pot head.
i reacted, and I tried to explain:
well, i said, an addict is an addict. the drug itself doesn't matter as much as the disease.
the other person argued (in the chat room) that pot is not a bad drug, everyone uses it etc etc. I was steadfast. an addict is an addict i said. it doesn't matter what they choose to use, i said.
Anyway, i am writing this post b/c i'm proud of myself. I was really unable to stay in the conversation without feeling good, - so i said good luck and i left!
it's the little things right!? - this little thing felt good to do. i feel like i practiced a boundary. I knew i was uncomfortable and really just reacting instead of being constructive, which is what i want to avoid in my life, for me. I was triggered (not the person's fault at ALL!) to react - and i didn't!
this is a big deal for me. to really control the one thing i can control - my reaction. to really reach for serenity.
i have been practicing this for 3 weeks and it's really starting to click in a way that feels good.
i feel compassion and empathy for the other persons situation.
There have been times i've wished you-know-who had "just" an alcohol problem, instead of unmedicated mental illness and out of control pot use - but i realize - i really do - that ultimately it's all the same issue.
i am here because i am involved with an addict and at the same time, i am recovering too.
I really really really love step 1. it's really feeling like a "click" in my brain...
i think i'm almost ready for step 2.
almost.
still going to bathe in step 1, until i know i'm ready for 2. but i think i'm really starting to revel in powerlessness (the epiphany of it) as well as serenity, and the kinds of control i can exert versus the reactions that bring me to shame.
i wonder if any of this makes sense!
hello, insomnia....
so i just went and gave the chat room a whirl.
while there, i found myself in a triggering conversation, where there was a person saying she wished her alcoholic sig. other was a pot head.
i reacted, and I tried to explain:
well, i said, an addict is an addict. the drug itself doesn't matter as much as the disease.
the other person argued (in the chat room) that pot is not a bad drug, everyone uses it etc etc. I was steadfast. an addict is an addict i said. it doesn't matter what they choose to use, i said.
Anyway, i am writing this post b/c i'm proud of myself. I was really unable to stay in the conversation without feeling good, - so i said good luck and i left!
it's the little things right!? - this little thing felt good to do. i feel like i practiced a boundary. I knew i was uncomfortable and really just reacting instead of being constructive, which is what i want to avoid in my life, for me. I was triggered (not the person's fault at ALL!) to react - and i didn't!
this is a big deal for me. to really control the one thing i can control - my reaction. to really reach for serenity.
i have been practicing this for 3 weeks and it's really starting to click in a way that feels good.
i feel compassion and empathy for the other persons situation.
There have been times i've wished you-know-who had "just" an alcohol problem, instead of unmedicated mental illness and out of control pot use - but i realize - i really do - that ultimately it's all the same issue.
i am here because i am involved with an addict and at the same time, i am recovering too.
I really really really love step 1. it's really feeling like a "click" in my brain...
i think i'm almost ready for step 2.
almost.
still going to bathe in step 1, until i know i'm ready for 2. but i think i'm really starting to revel in powerlessness (the epiphany of it) as well as serenity, and the kinds of control i can exert versus the reactions that bring me to shame.
i wonder if any of this makes sense!
hello, insomnia....
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Makes perfect sense to me OS.
I find that each step fully worked brought me a new kind of clarity that seemed obvious but that I had missed my whole life.
You made a good choice by sticking to your boundary and not getting drawn in. You stood on your own values/beliefs even though you stood alone.
All this is recovery shining brightly. Shine on, girl!
Hugs
I find that each step fully worked brought me a new kind of clarity that seemed obvious but that I had missed my whole life.
You made a good choice by sticking to your boundary and not getting drawn in. You stood on your own values/beliefs even though you stood alone.
All this is recovery shining brightly. Shine on, girl!
Hugs
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