Checking in after a long absence
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Join Date: Jan 2006
Location: Minneapolis, MN
Posts: 471
Checking in after a long absence
It's been way too long since I've posted. I logged in to see how everyone was doing and saw some old friends and many new folks.
I remember when I first found this site in 2006, confused, desperate and scared to death. I had just discovered my niece who came to live with us after college was addicted to meth.
Four years later after several incarcerations, two treatments (28 days and a later one for 3 months), 3 years of probation, therapy and a lot of meetings - she seems to be on the right track.
Occassionally she will say or do something when stressed that gives me a little cause for concern, but these are short lived and infrequent.
The good news is she is in sober living (for about 4 months now), studying for the tests she needs to take for grad school and doing yoga 4 times a week. She dumped the yukky boyfriend and is happy to be single at this time in her life. She lost her drivers license for a year but she's mastered public transportation and has cheerfully ridden her bike even in the winter to get where she needs to go while awaiting the day she can drive again.
After all I've been through (like a lot of you, it was CRAZY!!!!), the one thing I'm left with is the importance and power of letting go! I had to let go by degrees because I didn't have the wisdom or strength to do it all at once and all the trouble she got herself into was absolutely terrifying to me.
I got a lot of support here and at Nar Anon. As I look back, the one thing that made the biggest difference was letting go with love n - which I could not have done without support. And what a very hard thing that was to learn. Looking back, I don't know how I lived through it. And - if she relapses, I'm prepared with the tools I need.
I will continue to pray for everyone on this site that your higher power helps you the way mine did for me.
God bless everyone - thanks for being there when I needed you all so desperately.
I remember when I first found this site in 2006, confused, desperate and scared to death. I had just discovered my niece who came to live with us after college was addicted to meth.
Four years later after several incarcerations, two treatments (28 days and a later one for 3 months), 3 years of probation, therapy and a lot of meetings - she seems to be on the right track.
Occassionally she will say or do something when stressed that gives me a little cause for concern, but these are short lived and infrequent.
The good news is she is in sober living (for about 4 months now), studying for the tests she needs to take for grad school and doing yoga 4 times a week. She dumped the yukky boyfriend and is happy to be single at this time in her life. She lost her drivers license for a year but she's mastered public transportation and has cheerfully ridden her bike even in the winter to get where she needs to go while awaiting the day she can drive again.
After all I've been through (like a lot of you, it was CRAZY!!!!), the one thing I'm left with is the importance and power of letting go! I had to let go by degrees because I didn't have the wisdom or strength to do it all at once and all the trouble she got herself into was absolutely terrifying to me.
I got a lot of support here and at Nar Anon. As I look back, the one thing that made the biggest difference was letting go with love n - which I could not have done without support. And what a very hard thing that was to learn. Looking back, I don't know how I lived through it. And - if she relapses, I'm prepared with the tools I need.
I will continue to pray for everyone on this site that your higher power helps you the way mine did for me.
God bless everyone - thanks for being there when I needed you all so desperately.
Nature Girl
Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: By The Lake
Posts: 60,328
Your post just tickles my heart.
I am so glad that both of you are doing so well and thank you for sharing it here...newcomers need to see there is hope for the addict and hope for us too.
Sharing what worked for you will help the codie who just walked in see that life can be good, we survive and we thrive.
Hugs
I am so glad that both of you are doing so well and thank you for sharing it here...newcomers need to see there is hope for the addict and hope for us too.
Sharing what worked for you will help the codie who just walked in see that life can be good, we survive and we thrive.
Hugs
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Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: Eastern Time Zone
Posts: 1,011
Thanks for sharing your ESH. And I do covet your prayers for this family with an addicted 24 YO son.
When i first saw your user name I thought it was "Troubled One." But then I looked again and saw it was "Trouble Done." God does change things - even our names!!
When i first saw your user name I thought it was "Troubled One." But then I looked again and saw it was "Trouble Done." God does change things - even our names!!
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Join Date: May 2008
Location: Burnsville, MN
Posts: 966
Thanks for sharing.
It especially warms my heart to hear from someone close to me that is not only surviving, but thriving. Maybe I'll feel the good vibrations! I hope to one day be as strong and positive as you.
Thanks!
It especially warms my heart to hear from someone close to me that is not only surviving, but thriving. Maybe I'll feel the good vibrations! I hope to one day be as strong and positive as you.
Thanks!
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