jacksdaughter

My AS was here for the night and this morning tried to tell me he had got a letter from MV claiming due to their error he still owed them $$. #1 I bring all the mail in didn't see anything from MV and two never heard of such a thing so many times. Last time he sang this song I stupidly gave him money for the so called fine thinking at the time (as I didn't know about his drug/alchol addiction) I was helping him. This time I told him that maybe he had better call them and straigten it out and walked in the other room. I hope I'm wrong but my gut tells me maybe he is not clean as he claims and we are still in the same place. I wonder does it ever end.....

suki44883

You done GOOD!!! :ghug3

helpformyson

You did the right thing. We so badly want to believe our children,that we hold out hope that "this time" they might not be lying. I have fallen for my AS lies so many times, I'm embarrassed. Our gut feelings are rarely wrong. Listen to your inner voice. If he is clean, he will find a way to straighten out his ticket. Like my son, most addicts will not bother to follow through because it takes too much work.

want2Bfree325

I would definitely say that you did the right thing by listening to your gut and establishing boundaries for yourself by making him accountable for his own problems and by possibly not falling into a trap that in the past you had fallen for. It took me a very long time to realize, but your gut feelings are hardly ever wrong. Take Care...

teke

i agree with the others, you did good. if he's being honest and willing, he'll find away to get through this. i'm praying that he finds his way soon.

firekitty

good for you...I think you did the right thing as well. I wish my husband's mother was as strong as you are when it comes to telling him no. She's in denial of his problem 100% and you and the other parents here give me hope that someday they will see his problem for what it is and we can all band together and give him the help he needs!

sojourner

Awesome response to your son! And the thing is, it really is his responsibility to get this kind of stuff straightened out.

Keep coming back and sharing your good days (and your bad days.).....

hello-kitty

Good for you mom. It's hard not to rescue people from the consequences of their bad decisions - whether it's drugs, alcohol or the department of motor vehicles. You just allowed him to move one step closer to personal responsibility and possibly even one step closer to his bottom.

And you didn't pay for him to get high tonight. A celebration is in order for you!

Spiritual Seeker

We have to let our grown kids take care of their own financial situations and blunders...
addict or not.
Otherwise we clip their wings and go from enabling to disabling them.
We all learn from our mistake.

Sounds like you have learned from yours. Way to set boundaries with no guilt.

jacksdaughter

Thank you each and everyone of you... I couldn't have been strong without all your help! I hope to continue being strong in the hopes that one day he will be well and have a good life for himself.

coffeedrinker

yep, you did the right thing.

and why did he not show you the "letter" wow, that wasn't even a good one.

mooselips

Good job.

That "gut" feeling we experience, is probably 95% on the mark.

I almost fell for the "My girlfriend was kidnapped by the Russian Mafia" line....
Glad I saw through that one!

But, as all mothers, we really do WANT to believe them.

My new motto is NO MONEY.

And you can always call their bluff and check it out yourself. Just ask him to give you the number. LOL