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want2Bfree325 02-17-2010 11:49 AM

Prayers for you and your Grandfather :)

helpformyson 02-17-2010 12:45 PM

May our heavenly Father wrap you both in his arms and bless you.

Done_With_It 02-17-2010 01:26 PM

He's in a lot of pain and on morophine. I was told by someone today they weren't convinced her was going to die soon. I've had to watch this before many times.

I guess it's in Gods hands.

Just very sad. Hate to see him, anyone in pain. Hmmmmm........ Life is weird.

mooselips 02-17-2010 01:36 PM

Prayers for your grandpa Done.

When my father passed away I always found comfort in the fact that when I leave this earth, they'll be someone waiting for me with open arms.

Hugs and hugs......

JMFburns 02-17-2010 02:04 PM

a pray was just sent for your grandpa

BBD 02-17-2010 02:08 PM

Prayers for your Grampa Done...and for you. It is hard loosing someone thats so close but he will always be keeping an eye on you...

outtolunch 02-17-2010 03:53 PM

Just thinking about you, today.

bluebelle 02-17-2010 04:07 PM

Done,
I'm so sorry to hear about your grandpa. I'm saying prayers for him.

Done_With_It 02-17-2010 06:20 PM

Thank you everyone.

I'm am pretty good at not getting caught up in any of the why, or life isn't fair, or anger, or all the other stuff that can be a dangerous place for us to go, if we stay there to long.
I am blessed to have my eating disorder treatment center and the tools I've learned in my own program in my years of healing to not let myself.

But I think I would be numb if I didn't wonder or at least visit those questions for a minute. Or maybe it's the Picses in me, lol. I just wonder why someone like him, a true
cowboy in every sense of the word, a hard ass, ;) who could make you more angry and question yourself when no one else could, one of the few who always did the right thing.
He spent his life making sure his horses never 'suffered' and if you know what that means, ughhhhhhh.......
Not sure how to explain what I mean, just seems so bassawkward to me, he would never let an animal, his horses suffer, no matter how hard it was for him, I remember how hard it was for him.

Yet in "his" end, he sits there suffering. So many get to pass away in their sleep.
I don't get why.
And I am angry it seems almost everyone in my life who dies always has to suffer.
Makes me wonder sometimes... I'm not really angry, It is what it is.
Life is good, he had a good life, and he knows he is loved. I imagine that is what he is thinking about. He doesn't think about pain.
He is probably thinking about being with his wife soon.


Thanks for listening.... Knowing you all are here makes all the difference.

:tyou

Impurrfect 02-17-2010 06:46 PM

(((Done))))

Hugs and prayers, sweetie

Amy

Dee74 02-17-2010 06:59 PM

I know I'm the type of guy who was never able to lie down....stubborn, always a fighter..I still am. Even tho most times I know it would be better to lie down and relax...give in...but I'm bull headed.

Maybe I'm way off, I dunno...but sounds to me maybe yr Gramps is a little like that?

hugs
D

Done_With_It 02-17-2010 07:12 PM

LOL......... Yea he is.

Just got off the phone with my sister.

I am not one to talk about people, but you know when you can crack on those family members who need it, and Reminisce about stuff that happened, well remember when this happened when so and so died........ and this happened.

Life is just odd, I guess sometimes you think to much. But I'm okay now.
I was the one who not good yesterday, but I was the one who was able to calm the sister down today, so that is good. lol.

No one can make me laugh like my sister can and see that things are okay.
Her story of how my 'Dad' showed up in his Harley outfit, was enough to keep me laughing till 2011.

LOL, I am sure my Grandpa thought he was hallucinating from the morphine when he saw that..... :herewego

greeteachday 02-17-2010 09:08 PM

Lots of prayers for you and your Grandpa ((((Miss Done))))

Ann 02-18-2010 03:02 AM

Special prayers for Grandpa Done, that he may pass in peace when God is ready for him.

What a wonderful tribute to his memory you are Miss Done, I know he would be very very proud of you today, and his memory will always be with you and hopefully bring a smile to your heart.

Hugs

Seren 02-18-2010 04:59 AM

Prayers for peace, comfort, and strength for you and your Grandpa, Miss Done.

Hugs, HG
:flow:

Callie 02-18-2010 05:04 AM

Done - I'm so sorry about your Grandpa. I've lost 3 grandparents and it's so hard. They were and are such a huge part of my life. Cherish the memories and know that he's always with you.

Done_With_It 02-18-2010 09:23 AM


Originally Posted by Callie (Post 2519527)
Done - I'm so sorry about your Grandpa. I've lost 3 grandparents and it's so hard. They were and are such a huge part of my life. Cherish the memories and know that he's always with you.

Yea I've lost several also, I have one grandma after this. This Grandpa isn't my blood Grandpa but I've known him since I was two and was raised next door to him. He taught me so much, all my years of riding horses, becoming state champion, how to ride bulls, lol, when my parents were going through their divorce and it was pure craziness, I lived with them. He used to tease me relentlessly cause he said I cheated in Monopoly, lol, so many things I keep thinking about, he really contributed to my life and made me so much of who I am. It's good to feel so bad I guess cause things wouldn't have been so good if I didn't feel so bad.

All you grandparents out there who wonder if your helping 'the kids' of the addicts know that you are. My parents were never addicts, but they had their moments, lol. My grandparents taking me when they did, made a huge impact on my life. I still remember playing Monopoly with them, I was three years old when we started, and him spinning me around in my pajamas and so many other things.

MsPINKAcres 02-18-2010 09:32 AM

Thanks Done - you know I'm a grandparent to many and sometimes I wonder if I'm helping them any at all - you have given me great encouragement thru your remembering. I really needed that today.

My thoughts and prayers are with you - Praying for Peace, Comfort and Grace for your Precious Grandpa and for YOU!!!

BIG OLE PINK HUGS!!
Love ya,
Rita

historyteach 02-18-2010 11:07 AM

(((Miss Done)))

Prayers for your beloved Grandpa...
May his pain be ended soon,
and his love remain eternal in your heart. :amen

Your memories are precious, Done.
And, as long as he is remembered,
as long as you speak about him,
and carry him in your loving heart,
he lives. Long after his body has
stopped working, and his soul has
gone on to his wife and to G*D.

Believe that...It's one truth I know for sure. :hug:

I'm certain that your grandpa
was smiling inside,
just hearing you laugh...
It was music to his ears!
How could it not be?
He helped teach you that it was
ok to laugh, even when things
were tough, yes?

So, continue to be you,
when you sit with him.
That's what will help him
make his journey easier.
That, and your love. http://i177.photobucket.com/albums/w...ting_heart.gif

Shalom, my friend...Shalom!

I'm done with it 02-20-2010 12:18 AM

Praying for you and your grandpa. If he should go, you'll have an angel with you at all times. You'll never be alone.


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