sofacat

No one really mentions this, so I thought I would share some of the physical side effects of the "newly detached".... or "codie detox" if you will.

Here are some of mine-Day 4:

cold & sweaty palms
racing heart
unable to concentrate
starting one task and jumping to another
lethargy
loss of appetite
body temperature fluctuates
insomnia
bouts of crying
bouts of anger:
anxious (anxiety)
procrastination
overuse of the computer
avoidance
talking to yourself out loud (which can be quite funny when your in the car)

I am happy to report that I am actually dressed before 3PM and I am taking out my new purse out to run some errands. I will get on with my day.

I still haven't taking down my Christmas tree...but hopefully my procrastination will end today...or tonight

I still find myself "waiting" for some kind of word from Him. Checking my phone frequently and e mail Inbox. I know that is not good for Me. I am still working on that part, but I am getting out of this house and hopefully get my endorphins kicking. I need that.

Oh...a slip- checking His FB page for status updates. Had to shut it down.
But happy to report, no phone calls, e mails, or texts on my part. This morning I almost caved...but did not. I also found myself not telling my best friend what was happening...but promptly and calmly called her back to correct myself.

I can say today I feel a little bit better than I did yesterday. One foot in front of the other.

I have resolve and I will get through the next 10 hours and 33 minutes doing things for Me.

Ann

You're doing just fine. Sometimes it's baby steps and sometimes it's two steps forward and one step back....but it DOES get better, I promise you it does.

If you can throw some meetings into the mix, your odds improve that you will feel much better soon. It worked that way for me.

Hugs

sofacat

Thanks Ann,

There is a 7PM meeting tonight that I am going to try. I just hope someone is there!

Thanks for the encouragement! It all helps so much.

teke

yep!!!!!!!!!!! it does get better, one foot in front of the other. good for you and i hope you enjoy your meeting.

coffeedrinker

when i shared with my mother that i was thinking i would have to leave my abf, i said "i have always know, mother, that if i do, i will miss him for the rest of my life." she said "honey, it always feels like that at first."

telling myself that this terrible sadness will end always helps a little

Impurrfect

(((Sofacat))) - I literally thought I would DIE without XABF#1 (yeah, I was a slow learner and had 3). I put a loaded gun to my head TWICE when he threatened to leave...luckily he knocked it out of my hand both times.

I didn't die, though I worsened in my codie ways and developed my own addiction....I wish SR had been around back then, or I had LISTENED to the people who had tried to help me...I could have saved myself years of heartache.

The point is, I don't even know what I saw in him, now! Sure, we had some great times and I still remember those, but I also remember the bad and it was truly a dysfunctional relationship. Absense has made me realize just HOW dysfunctional it was...on both sides, in my case.

It does get better, I promise. It doesn't happen right away...we still have to grieve the relationship we thought we had but don't.

Keep putting that "one foot in front of the other"...I think you're doing GREAT!!!

Hugs and prayers!

Amy

OtherHalf7

Sofacat, I felt exactly like you do, for the last five months...but, each day, I cried a little less, the anger and the confusion eased up, and even though we are still apart and I still miss him, I finally quit wondering what I could have done, quit asking "what if's".

On a lighter note, I met someone, an addiction specialist of all people, and I'm seriously thinking about taking him up on his offer of a nice dinner...scary, and thinking with my head this time, but for the first time in months I went a whole day without anxiety. That's amazing...I even started wearing makeup again, just because, and have managed to sleep through the night several times.

I don't know about you guys, but with the new year, I'm looking forward to enjoying life again, and not drowning in the problems of others!

Love and hugs to all!