devastated

Thanksgiving went very nicely. Son came to dinner along with gf and gf's son. It was a very pleasant evening.

It seems like he is trying very hard to stay on the straight and narrow. Guess that's because he knows he doesn't have a place in our home anymore, and the gf let him spend the night in the car the night of his birthday.

Since that time, he has been very pleasant. I only pray that this behavior continues.

Not letting my guard down, and not getting my hopes up. Taking it one day at a time. Enjoying the good days and letting him know his choices are his own.

Don't you think it's about time? Hello, he just turned 47 years old!

Hope Xmas goes well, but as I said earlier not getting the hopes too high.

Hope you all have a great Christmas and this new year will be the best yet!

Hugs, Devastated

Impurrfect

(((Dev))) - I'm glad you had a good Thanksgiving! BTW, your son is only a year younger than me, so some of us take a while to "get it" and the consequences (having everyone set boundaries like "you can't come home if you're using" was that got me) is what helped me the most.

Hugs and prayers!

Amy

coffeedrinker

my significant other just turned 49 and has used everything under the sun for (off and on) over 30 years. once he simply said "it's the only thing i have ever found to take away the pain". i think the longer you have used, the more difficult it is to really quit and change your life.

glad you are doing well!

greeteachday

I'm happy to hear you are living in today and enjoying what life brings! Have a wonderful holiday...I will be making some of the recipes you have shared

I think it may be time for a holiday recipe thread again!

barb dwyer

*pretend this is the thanks button and the 'support' button*

BunnyLaRoo

I am glad you had a nice thanksgiving too. Your son and his girlfriend are surely discussing his behavior before he comes over. I hope that means that he is seeing a better part of himself in sobriety. As an alcoholic myself, I understand how devastating it can be to hear the words "you cant come here unless...." but I also understand why they need to be imposed. I honestly hope you can continue to work with him to get him sober and straight. As parents it must be so heartbreaking but perhaps with time, he will come in to his own....

Ann

Dev, I love that you can step back from all this and just let life unfold as it may. God's got it all covered, and all you and I need to do is to live our own lives the best way we know how.

Big Christmas hugs to you and Mr. Dev, and keeping your son in my prayers.

Huge hugs and lotsa love

historyteach

((((Dev))))

So glad your Thanksgiving was a good one with family around the table!

More glad that you are holding your own
Happy in your own skin.

Have a great holiday season!
Love you!

hope213

dev, i pray things go great at this time of the year. i am proud of you that you have learned to step way & let him make his choices. we both know they are going to do what they want anyway. stay strong. live & be happy. we have both been doing thiss tooo long. my son turned 38 in april. hugs & prayers,

katie44

Glad you had a nice Thanksgiving with your son. It really doesnt matter what age they are, some it just takes alot longer to hit there bottom. Sounds like you are a peace with yourself." Happy Holidays"