katie44

Not an easy thing to do. We kicked our 22 AS out of the house at least a dozen times. Each time letting him come back, believing his lies and manipulation. He stole thousands and thousands of dollars from us, wracked up our credit cards, stole our vehicles. It wasn't until last year we started holding him accountable for his thieving. We have pressed charges several times, only now is the crown asking for jail time. AS is very charming and good looking. Most people would not know he was an addict. He can be quite charming wich has helped assist him in obtaining money. I know how hard it is to kick them out, but I can only tell you from experience the disease gets progressively worse. I used to think he would die or starve to death out of our home. He always makes out okay. There are organizations that will help your son when he is ready, but not until. They always manage to get drugs, he will aways find a place to go. It isnt to recently that we have come to realize after 5 years if AS does not suffer the consequences of his addiction, he will have no reason for recovery. (((( hugs)))))

Ann

Coming in late on this one, but something that helped me follow through was to drop my son at a Salvation Army hostel. They had counselors there, hot food, clean beds and a connection to rehabs if the resident was willing.

Keeping your son in my prayers, that he finds a better path soon.

Hugs

BigSis

((hugs))

Being the parent of addicts is the hardest thing I've ever had happen to me.

Things I've learned over time -

I can only do what I can live with
Boundaries (initially) have to be small so that I can keep them
I will generally feed my kid, but not give either of them cash
I won't beat myself up if I screw up, I will learn and move on
They are doing the best they can with the condition they have
God (higher power) HAS them and only God is strong enough to take them where they need to go
I can't control outcomes, but I can have hope
Catastrophisizing doesn't help me
Alanon meetings refresh my will
AA meetings give me hope
When I meet resistance I am working against the will of the universe




Just some thoughts. I wish you the best. ((hugs))

WIworrier

Well...Day 2
No word yet....
I am dealing with it ok
It is killing my husband
If anything happens to him...it will be "all my fault"
Hmmmmm.....spouse can't take him living here...or out on the streets...
What to do?

hello-kitty

Hi and welcome.

No it won't. It will be his fault. Give him the dignity and respect to own his decision and don't rescue him from his choices. Who knows, maybe it will lead him to getting help for his problems. Sometimes, not always, it takes something "happening' before an addict gets help for his problem.

Your son is exactly where he needs to be right now.

I forget. Have you looked into alanon? you will find lots of support and insight at alanon meetings as to what you should do next. It is about you. Not the addict. It may help you find the strength to get thru these difficult times.

Chenowth

Pray and stick to your guns!

Seren

I'm sorry for the worry....I know this is hard. My stepson has not contacted his father in a week, now. All I can tell you is that my stepson always manages to figure out something. Addicts are very resourceful.

Hugs and prayers for you, your husband, and your son.

HG