I think it's finally over . . .
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I think it's finally over . . .
After almost a year of the court battles, ugly messages and texts, spreading lies, many court dates, garnishments, way too much money spent, and countless more arguements - I think it's finally over.
I think I am finally done, free and completely released from my ex addict husband.
I was going to say you have no idea the weight that takes of my shoulders - but if anyone in the world understands - my friends here at SR truly DO know what that would feel like.
Last Monday was the court date for the spousal support issue. My ex did show up in the court this time - All smiles and talking to MY attorney like it was his best friend - we all know what great "smooshers" they can be.
He came up with a proposal and it was one that I could live with. It wasn't the best in the world - but ya know it wasn't the worse either. I decided to take the deal, cut my losses and end it. I was tired of fighting.
So we went before the judge - entered it on the record - this way there will be no way my ex can come back and change his mind.
Yesterday I had to deliver some stuff to my former house - that he will now get to live in for free for the rest of his life because of the Federal Government and their insanity. (another long story - to insane to explain)
AND as I drove away from that house - know that will be the last time I will ever have to go there - the last time I will ever see it - what once was my dream home . . .
I was so grateful to say - At last, I'm done. The divorce is final, the property settlement is complete. Our children are grown - we need never speak again.
It's sad that it had to end that way - instead of the way it could have been - the shaking of hands and just walking away as friends - but it just doesn't happen that way all the time.
So no more phone calls, no more text messages - no more court dates - no more any more.
Today, by the Strength and Blessings of the God of my understanding, is a day of total freedom -
What a blessing -
Whatever path you walk today - may you have the sense of peace and freedom - even if it is only in your heart and mind until the day you can feel it all around you,
HUGS,
Rita
I think I am finally done, free and completely released from my ex addict husband.
I was going to say you have no idea the weight that takes of my shoulders - but if anyone in the world understands - my friends here at SR truly DO know what that would feel like.
Last Monday was the court date for the spousal support issue. My ex did show up in the court this time - All smiles and talking to MY attorney like it was his best friend - we all know what great "smooshers" they can be.
He came up with a proposal and it was one that I could live with. It wasn't the best in the world - but ya know it wasn't the worse either. I decided to take the deal, cut my losses and end it. I was tired of fighting.
So we went before the judge - entered it on the record - this way there will be no way my ex can come back and change his mind.
Yesterday I had to deliver some stuff to my former house - that he will now get to live in for free for the rest of his life because of the Federal Government and their insanity. (another long story - to insane to explain)
AND as I drove away from that house - know that will be the last time I will ever have to go there - the last time I will ever see it - what once was my dream home . . .
I was so grateful to say - At last, I'm done. The divorce is final, the property settlement is complete. Our children are grown - we need never speak again.
It's sad that it had to end that way - instead of the way it could have been - the shaking of hands and just walking away as friends - but it just doesn't happen that way all the time.
So no more phone calls, no more text messages - no more court dates - no more any more.
Today, by the Strength and Blessings of the God of my understanding, is a day of total freedom -
What a blessing -
Whatever path you walk today - may you have the sense of peace and freedom - even if it is only in your heart and mind until the day you can feel it all around you,
HUGS,
Rita
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I'm happy you have an ending Rita, but most of all I wish you more amazing new beginnings than you ever dreamed of. You deserve them, it's been a long time coming.
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Originally Posted by Astro 
I'm happy you have an ending Rita, but most of all I wish you more amazing new beginnings than you ever dreamed of. You deserve them, it's been a long time coming.
I have always gotten so much out of your posts, and I know God has wondrous things in store for you!
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Thank you for sharing your journey with us, Rita. You've been an inspiration
throughout all the dealings with your ex. May God continue to bless you
as you begin your new journey.
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Every new beginning starts with a small tear Rita. It has to be hard to let go of what you thought was going to be a wonderful life. Now, Take care of you and your new dreams...sounds like you deserve some happy time. Hugs, Bonnie
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You are such an inspiration, Rita, and you have handled everything with such grace. I'm glad it is over, it's been a long road for you.
New beginnings await you, wear your sunglasses girl, it's a bright path ahead.
Hugs
New beginnings await you, wear your sunglasses girl, it's a bright path ahead.
Hugs
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(((Rita)))
I know it's been a long time coming...and I'm sure there's a sense of relief...but I also know, as the exwife of an addict, that its still kind of sad. Be extra gentle with yourself. Do something extra nice for yourself. You deserve it.
Hugs to you...
I know it's been a long time coming...and I'm sure there's a sense of relief...but I also know, as the exwife of an addict, that its still kind of sad. Be extra gentle with yourself. Do something extra nice for yourself. You deserve it.
Hugs to you...
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A long time ago, I watched a woman come down the stairs of the courthouse then toss her ring in the fountain out front. The look on her face made me stare and I've always remembered it so clearly - she looked so peaceful and was glowing all the way from deep inside. Japic, that's the way I see you right now. May God continue to bless you.
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I will never forget the day I came out of that court house, my mind spinning, my lawyer giving me the high 5. I kept asking him are you sure that is what the judge ment...It's Over?! I was in and out of that court house in 20 min, divorced, full custody of the boys and the house. I immediately called my mom....its over mom! Oh honey she said I am so happy for you, she started to cry with joy, it has been one long haul for you, come over I need to see you so happy!
I know it is sad that it all had to end that way, but we didn't choose that path of life, we had to except what was thrown at us and deal with it whether we wanted to or not. By the time my divorce came through, there was no questions left in my mind that there was any hope for us. I did sell our home, but the night I left, I never looked back.
I am not going to say that I don't have an off day here and there, but far and few between and it compares nothing to the off days I had while living in that chaos. Like you there is no reason for us to have anything to do with each other.
Congradulations to you and your knew found freedom!
Rose
I know it is sad that it all had to end that way, but we didn't choose that path of life, we had to except what was thrown at us and deal with it whether we wanted to or not. By the time my divorce came through, there was no questions left in my mind that there was any hope for us. I did sell our home, but the night I left, I never looked back.
I am not going to say that I don't have an off day here and there, but far and few between and it compares nothing to the off days I had while living in that chaos. Like you there is no reason for us to have anything to do with each other.
Congradulations to you and your knew found freedom!
Rose
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