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I've set another deadline - quietly to myself. What it's about isn't important. It's something I know I need to do. Something I've held off on because I've tried to give him time to get on his feet again. I suppose that's another way that I'm still enabling even after all this time.
I've struggled with whether or not to tell him but as a friend reminded me - he already knows what his responsibilities are. It isn't up to me to remind him again. It's my job to make things right in this particular situation - even though it's a tough one. I'm struggling with the consequences for him, and I'm preparing myself for the fall out that will occur.
Sigh. Just wanted to put this out there in an effort to hold myself accountable...the clock is ticking.
I've struggled with whether or not to tell him but as a friend reminded me - he already knows what his responsibilities are. It isn't up to me to remind him again. It's my job to make things right in this particular situation - even though it's a tough one. I'm struggling with the consequences for him, and I'm preparing myself for the fall out that will occur.
Sigh. Just wanted to put this out there in an effort to hold myself accountable...the clock is ticking.
Personally, I hate deadlines, even when it comes to addiction. Because recovery is a journey, not a destination, it’s an ongoing entity…for both the addict and the co-addict. But, then again it all depends on the circumstances and if the deadline is independently ours…meaning as long as it is not dependent on the actions of others...like if he doesn't do this by then then I'm going to ____________.
I am not sure that giving him time to get on his feet is necessarily enabling, as long as you are not doing things for him. I keep reminding myself, progress, not perfection. This goes for my recovery as well as his, regardless of how slow or fast that progress may be.
For now, I am sticking with my husband, giving him time. As long as I see progress, even in small ways, and as long as he remains clean, and is staying on his journey, I am not the one to judge how fast his journey should be.
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