I am offically done
the girl can't help it
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I am offically done
Well after a whole lot of crap I finally got my H out of my life. I have kicked him out several times in the past few months. He had a warrant out on him he came back to my house again so I just called the cops to come get him. My whole body is still shaking.
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the girl can't help it
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I feel this emptiness right now like a cannon ball was shot thru my soul. I can't believe I have put up with it for so long. Hopefully soon it will just be a distant memory and my life will get much better.
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Join Date: Dec 2007
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Be patient with yourself, splendra, and let the emotions roll and then settle.
When we act differently, with new conviction, it not only shakes up the A, it also shakes up us.
We think, What did I just do?
I like to think we finally became our purest self.
Have a better day today. You have gotten off the old path and onto a brand new one. Keep going!
When we act differently, with new conviction, it not only shakes up the A, it also shakes up us.
We think, What did I just do?
I like to think we finally became our purest self.
Have a better day today. You have gotten off the old path and onto a brand new one. Keep going!
Drug Addiction Has No Mercy
Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: Milwaukie Oregon
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Originally Posted by splendra 
Well after a whole lot of crap I finally got my H out of my life. I have kicked him out several times in the past few months. He had a warrant out on him he came back to my house again so I just called the cops to come get him. My whole body is still shaking.
Originally Posted by splendra
I feel this emptiness right now like a cannon ball was shot thru my soul. I can't believe I have put up with it for so long. Hopefully soon it will just be a distant memory and my life will get much better.
It has gotten better already. You have freed yourself.
It is a bittersweet I know, but you did what you had to do. Don't look back.
Celebrate Freedom!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hugs,
Passion
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Originally Posted by splendra
I feel this emptiness right now like a cannon ball was shot thru my soul. I can't believe I have put up with it for so long. Hopefully soon it will just be a distant memory and my life will get much better.
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god your just like me, i have just kicked my other half out today for the last time too, i cant take anymore and if he does not go i will end up losing myself totalyy, i just want to be the person i once was before i met him, well done and stay strong honey xx
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: NY
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Splendra, ridding ourselves of toxic relationships (especially family members/spouse
) is the hardest scariest thing. Your just feeling numb right now (thank God for this to survive the moment), your feelings will return. You did the right thing as difficult as it was. Huggs.
) is the hardest scariest thing. Your just feeling numb right now (thank God for this to survive the moment), your feelings will return. You did the right thing as difficult as it was. Huggs.
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(((Splendra))),
We take it until we can't take it any more. That hole will fill up. It takes some time and can't really be rushed if you want to heal properly. But for me, the "mourning" period for my marriage happened more while I was still married and seeing it all go bad. When I finally did say enough, no more, and started the separation/divorce, it wasn't that bad, almost a relief. I told myself I had already cried enough tears. Of course I had more, but not so much for him, just for the whole dream not staying true. It's been 5 years, Splendra. I didn't date that whole time until recently when an old guy friend from high school showed up in my life again, a "normal" guy who treats me so nice and is so much fun to be with. He was worth the wait. I stayed out of the dating scene because I didn't trust my "picker", you know? But this guy found me, even when I wasn't looking.
I realize you aren't really looking for anyone at this moment; neither was I when it all went down, not by a long shot. Just know that you did your best, and that I can really identify with how hard you tried and how long you stayed, and how sad and strange and tiring it all is when it's finally over. One foot in front of the other on those days when you don't feel strong, Splendra. And no going back. Good job, and good luck
We take it until we can't take it any more. That hole will fill up. It takes some time and can't really be rushed if you want to heal properly. But for me, the "mourning" period for my marriage happened more while I was still married and seeing it all go bad. When I finally did say enough, no more, and started the separation/divorce, it wasn't that bad, almost a relief. I told myself I had already cried enough tears. Of course I had more, but not so much for him, just for the whole dream not staying true. It's been 5 years, Splendra. I didn't date that whole time until recently when an old guy friend from high school showed up in my life again, a "normal" guy who treats me so nice and is so much fun to be with. He was worth the wait. I stayed out of the dating scene because I didn't trust my "picker", you know? But this guy found me, even when I wasn't looking.
I realize you aren't really looking for anyone at this moment; neither was I when it all went down, not by a long shot. Just know that you did your best, and that I can really identify with how hard you tried and how long you stayed, and how sad and strange and tiring it all is when it's finally over. One foot in front of the other on those days when you don't feel strong, Splendra. And no going back. Good job, and good luck
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I'm there with you. My son has been out of my house for about a month and there are days I miss him terribly. THen there are days that I feel so strong. Give yourself time to feel the roller coaster of emotions. After some time, it will even out with only an occasional drop that makes you lose your stomach.
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Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: East Coast, US
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Splendra,
I'm proud of you. Now you'll never have to wonder "what if" you put up with it just a little longer...etc. You know that you did it until you couldn't do it no more.
We'll do this thing together. Everybody here loves you and we're here for you as much as we can be.
Take care of yourself.
Love,
Holly
I'm proud of you. Now you'll never have to wonder "what if" you put up with it just a little longer...etc. You know that you did it until you couldn't do it no more.
We'll do this thing together. Everybody here loves you and we're here for you as much as we can be.
Take care of yourself.
Love,
Holly
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Splendra, I am so darn proud of you and keeping you in my prayers. It's been a long road but you have been running your life alone for a long time now and I know the future will be bright for you.
You've closed the door on a room that was already empty.
Big Hugs
You've closed the door on a room that was already empty.
Big Hugs
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Whoaaa!!!!!!!! Good going Splendra. Now that you got that monkey off your back, you can make a really good and peaceful life for yourself. Don't feel guilt or bad for what you had to do. He is responsible for his own problems. Not you. Even if he tries to turn it around on you. Don't let him. I wish you the best of luck, and don't worry. Tomorrow will be better. I'm sending you a hug, :ghug3 and I am very proud of you. You did good kid.
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