Marlie

... I have done was when I found rolled up paper in my daughter's room (to snort cocaine) I asked myself "hmmm, I wonder if paper just rolls that way?" I then proceeded to rip up hundreds of pieces of paper to see if they just "magically' rolled themselves when torn. Try it, they don't roll themselves. LOL, the papers I found had white powder residue and I tested non-rolled papers to see if they had any white powder that came off. What did I think that all paper had powder attached?


Talk about denial!

What is the most ridiculous thing you have done when confronted with your addicted love one's habit?

ItsmeAlice

My most horrifically naive moment was one day about a year or so after my ABF moved in with me and when his alcohol use and staying out with the guys started.

I was doing some work at home one day and saw he had left some videos out on the office floor. I caught a glimpse of a one of the titles from across the room. The title was shockingly similar to a horse trailering video I had been wanting to see but it was too expensive to buy and the one copy they had at the video store was always rented out.

I had been struggling with getting my horse to get on the trailer quietly, and I couldn't believe my man had kept it a secret that he had a copy. I snatched up the tape and ran to the VCR in the living room and popped it in.

....well you can guess what came up on the screen. That's right, a rather raunchy video to say the least. I'm not scared off by such adult content, but I think it was the great expectation I had of seeing a some fabulous horse's rump walking onto a trailer next to some cowboy that made me freak out.

I screamed and started slapping the VCR in the hopes of making it all just go away. I looked like I was trying to put out a fire with a flyswatter. Ugh!

Worse yet, it wasn't for a couple more years that I realized what he and his friends were watching when he would call and say they were in the middle of a good movie and he'd be later than expected getting home.

Yeah, sure...it wasn't that good, believe me. No Oscar winner there.

Alice

GwenMarie30

Im sorry but................


LMAO!

That is funny. Thanks for making me laugh.

Im sorry you both had to go thru your itroduction into what addicts do. I am an addict so I cant really share here. And trust me when I say I wasnt laughing at what you went thru. It was just the wording and sarcasm in which it was said. Ok now, Ive put my foot in mouth and will leave the thread.

imallright

What is it with guys, drugs and porn??? IMO, one is bad enough why do they compound it?????

Lost83

I've ever done was...... my husband was in detox, I woke up that Saturday morning and started my routine, fed my son cleaning etc. My father came home and asked for a hug, totally out of character for both of us, I asked him what was going on and he said "there's $800 missing from my room, I had been putting $$ back each time you pay rent so when you guys buy a house you'd have more than you thought saved". I assured him my AH COULDN"T have taken it, I ransacked the house, stripped the car, garage, was looking in the garden, out by the pool. I was convinced there was no way he could have taken this money and spent it on drugs without me noticing. He finally called and admitted it, I was devastated. Why was I so surprised, man talk about denial at it's peak.

Serenity Bound

okay, call me naive.....I found what I thought to be a crack pipe....so what do I do....I put it in my purse brought it to work and then asked a co-worker if it was what I thought. He said yup, and YOU better not get caught with it in YOUR possession. SO, I wrapped it up & threw it in a trash bin a the closest 7-11.

jerect

Lets see..

Believed him when he said he was just selling those pills that I found and that he was not using them.... as if selling drugs was ok as long as he was not using...

Believed him when he said that the 80.00 I found hidden in his work bag was not his money... someone else gave it to him so that he could get "something" for them..

I'm so glad I'm not in denial anymore

CoDieNOmore

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I think one of the stupidest things I have done is bailout my sex addict bf for solicitation... AND then believe his story about only talking smack to her... This was in the first few months of the relationship..

puddinface

Dummy me....I believed my son when he told me that the white pills I found in his drawer was Vitamin C!!!! Yep Yep Yep

hello-kitty

I loaned my ex my car again and again and again. He would disappear in it for days. I would swear that I would never let him drive my car again. And then sure enough, a couple weeks later, I'd let him drive it again. Only to have him disappear for days again.

What's more ridiculous is that I didn't call the police.

And theres more. But that was a different time. And I am a different person now.

ItsmeAlice

That's right hello-kitty. You are better than that now! Be proud of yourself for that.

I may still be naive and I may still get completely blindsided with nonsense from time to time, but I'm learning, right?

May we all one day have the wisdom of the ages.

Until then I will still be cautious about putting a tape in the old VCR. Ha!

kj3880

Believed my "not-using" exabf when he told me "my eyes just are really tired, that's why they aren't dilating properly!" ha. so not funny, though, really. I'm so glad to be single I'm dancing with joy as I work my overtime!

KJ

imallright

Would smell the pot on him and believe him when he told me that he had to walk through a bunch of smokers when he left work. Would see his eyes and feel bad that he had been welding that day. Would sniff his jacket and tell myself it was not weed that I was smelling. Would find his stuff and think maybe it was from a long time ago and that he forgot to get rid of it. THEN, thank the good lord, finally my eyes opened! Looking back I have to wonder why it too me soooo long to move... but everything happens when it is supposed to happen I guess.

longview

The most ridiculous thing I've done is...

... thinking that I could help my AD recover by providing a safe home, nourishing food and opportunities! What the heck did I think, since I'd been offering her that all her life and it didn't work! *But that's what she said she wanted... aaaargh.*

justtired

I believed abf when he said that he hit his head in a fender bender and must have had a concussion and THAT'S why he took all his pills in a week and couldn't remember doing it!

I even told the cops that! lol. They must have thought, man this chick is in DENIAL! I had no clue he was even abusing his meds at the time. What a way to find out!

breakingfree88

I found his crack paraphernalia and believed him when he said he really didn't know how it got there. (How the eff do you not know how something got in YOUR room? And more so, how could I have believed him!!!! LOL)
Also, never asked him about the many many boxes of baking soda in the house. Convinced myself it was his brothers', or that he liked to clean (despite the house always being disgusting).
Lord have mercy. Denial is an ugly thing.
I'm with KJ-Thank god I'm free!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
And thanks to everyone for this thread. Wonderful topic

Sofardown

I think you have all covered everything I have ever heard out of his mouth, or told myself while in denial! No need for me to post anything! Diddo....on it all!
But I can recall one time when I found a lot of weed, threw it all down the toilet. He then told me it "isn't mine" and "they are gonna kill me if I don't give them money for it now, you don't know who your dealing with". I actually gave him $ so he could pay them! HELLO!!! Them was him!!!

Live

oh, geez....my long ago xbf and I were camping at a state park (no alcohol allowed) and he told me he had brought a (rather large) bottle of vodka. I think he was hoping we could have drinks?! NOT
Later he went to gather firewood, then came back and told me he had dumped the vodka out because it was illegal there and he didn't want to get in trouble.
I BELIEVED HIM!!!
He dumped it all right....right down his throat
I only realized that when he became a raging drunk slightly later.
ANd he started throwing my sister's camp gear in the creek....
I threw his jeans in the creek leaving him bare-butted and took off running for the ranger station.
AND dumb...was that I wasn't even done with him yet!

barblsn

I believed him when he told me his odd behavior meant he was "getting manic" and I truly believed everything would be ok once he got back on meds. NOPE!

Abundance

When I found heroin on him.... and he was going to leave.... but I told him not to drive with the heroin - so he asked me to go outside while he put it away..... in fear that I was going to take it. SO... I went outside..... AND thought for about 3 seconds...... WHAT IN THE HECK AM I DOING?

Fortunately that heroin thing was a few week run - but man - it really made me realize that OPIATES SUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!

One that revolves around pills - "so, where are the rest of the pills?" ...... his reply: .... "they are spread out in different places - but i have them all!" - knowing that I am not going to press the issue to make him get them all because I don't have the energy with his bullxxxx. And he thinks he is coming off on top cause he "wins" by saying "it's none of your business anyway - they are locked up and put away securely." And my response being: "Well - i don't feel comfortable with pills being locked up and me not knowing where" and his reply... "That is something I'll have to think about - good point."

LAME !!!!!!!!!!!

So flipping stupid...... I like to call these things....... "stupid dog tricks".