so I've been used again
I also brought up the abuse issue, and well she seems to think he won't abuse her if she doesn't put him in the position to.
The thing is, we are NOT the only option. Should she choose to go to a women's shelter next time, they will give her counselling, support and ensure her safety and that of her child/children.
Sadly, this is another lesson she needs to learn for herself.
Giving up that front row seat took me forever, but what a relief to discover I was not the director of the drama, never was.
Big hugs for you and prayers for your daughter and the babies.
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Moose & Ann, About two weeks ago, I printed one of the threads about abuse. My AD looked it over and said her H fit the decription of an abuser. When she first left him, she got a protection order, went to SARC, got an atty and was supposed to go to classes. She chose not to go to those classes. She has many friends in the program AA/NA who have been there for her, I'm just afraid that they too will say enough is enough.
When she said she was moving back, I of course reacted, then I struggled with myself and that reaction, am I trying to control a situation.
Even though I know that this is HER choice and HER life, it's still SO hard to stand by and watch. At least I won't have a front row seat.
I pray daily for both my AD & her girls.
When she said she was moving back, I of course reacted, then I struggled with myself and that reaction, am I trying to control a situation.
Even though I know that this is HER choice and HER life, it's still SO hard to stand by and watch. At least I won't have a front row seat.
I pray daily for both my AD & her girls.
Serenity....you are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope that your AD does not get hurt, but she is a big girl, as you say, and it is time for her to live with her decisions. I hope that her moving out will bring you some much needed peace!
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[This sounds like the cycle of abuse, this being the "courting" stage. I hope not, but it fits the classic mold.]
this is what scares me, I also believe it is the courting stage. He even bought my daughter a tanning membership. (gifts)
They just left.
this is what scares me, I also believe it is the courting stage. He even bought my daughter a tanning membership. (gifts)
They just left.
OOO Chris,
I looked at your post quickly and thought it said "So I've been using again" man I was going to come on here and flip a brick. LOL
I know it is hard Chris, but you know she has to make her own choice here. Lets just hope things change and she stays clean. I am thinking about you and your family.
And girlfriend you stay clean!!! I can't flip anymore bricks. That color reminds me to much of my hair. LOL
I looked at your post quickly and thought it said "So I've been using again" man I was going to come on here and flip a brick. LOL
I know it is hard Chris, but you know she has to make her own choice here. Lets just hope things change and she stays clean. I am thinking about you and your family.
And girlfriend you stay clean!!! I can't flip anymore bricks. That color reminds me to much of my hair. LOL
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