Just so you know...
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Join Date: Mar 2008
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Just so you know...
I have one year clean today..
Although most of you know me as a recovering codie, I'm also a recovering addict.
Just so you know what recovery looks like:
Daily meetings for a year.
All new clean friends.
Going to work at my job on time every day. Even when ill.
Going to appointments with addictionologist every month. On time.
Followed doctors' advice exactly.
Broke off all relationships with users, including b/f.
Didn't tolerate chronic relapsers in my life. If you use, you lose me. I can't be around it. Period.
Got a sponsor. Did what she said.
Worked steps.
Made amends.
Helped newcomers, but didn't hang out with them apart from meetings if they are using.
Hung with the winners. People who could show me how to do it.
Took care of my kids.
Kept my home neat and clean
Worked on keeping my side of the street clean.
I'm not saying I did it perfectly, but I really followed those above "suggestions" to the letter. It isn't easy, but it is so worth it.
***Did you notice that none of the above say "tried to..." No. I did stuff. Trying isn't good enough. Just so you know what you're looking at with your a. There is no try with this thing. There is only do. If you don't see a whole bunch of the above, you aren't looking at recovery at your house. We do recover, some of us. I'm living proof, today. But if you don't see the above behavior, run the other way. And just so you know...even if we do all of the above, it isn't that pretty.
Love,
KJ
Although most of you know me as a recovering codie, I'm also a recovering addict.
Just so you know what recovery looks like:
Daily meetings for a year.
All new clean friends.
Going to work at my job on time every day. Even when ill.
Going to appointments with addictionologist every month. On time.
Followed doctors' advice exactly.
Broke off all relationships with users, including b/f.
Didn't tolerate chronic relapsers in my life. If you use, you lose me. I can't be around it. Period.
Got a sponsor. Did what she said.
Worked steps.
Made amends.
Helped newcomers, but didn't hang out with them apart from meetings if they are using.
Hung with the winners. People who could show me how to do it.
Took care of my kids.
Kept my home neat and clean
Worked on keeping my side of the street clean.
I'm not saying I did it perfectly, but I really followed those above "suggestions" to the letter. It isn't easy, but it is so worth it.
***Did you notice that none of the above say "tried to..." No. I did stuff. Trying isn't good enough. Just so you know what you're looking at with your a. There is no try with this thing. There is only do. If you don't see a whole bunch of the above, you aren't looking at recovery at your house. We do recover, some of us. I'm living proof, today. But if you don't see the above behavior, run the other way. And just so you know...even if we do all of the above, it isn't that pretty.
Love,
KJ
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Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: Hackettstown, NJ
Posts: 692
Congratulations KJ!! I just celebrated 5 yrs clean on the 28th of March - and its still a daily repreive no matter how much 'work' I do or how long since the last one. It is important on this forum to let people know that addicts can and do recover!
*~10 YEARS BABY~*
Join Date: Nov 2005
Location: Hollywood
Posts: 9,369
Originally Posted by kj3880 
I have one year clean today..
Although most of you know me as a recovering codie, I'm also a recovering addict.
Just so you know what recovery looks like:
Daily meetings for a year.
All new clean friends.
Going to work at my job on time every day. Even when ill.
Going to appointments with addictionologist every month. On time.
Followed doctors' advice exactly.
Broke off all relationships with users, including b/f.
Didn't tolerate chronic relapsers in my life. If you use, you lose me. I can't be around it. Period.
Got a sponsor. Did what she said.
Worked steps.
Made amends.
Helped newcomers, but didn't hang out with them apart from meetings if they are using.
Hung with the winners. People who could show me how to do it.
Took care of my kids.
Kept my home neat and clean
Worked on keeping my side of the street clean.
I'm not saying I did it perfectly, but I really followed those above "suggestions" to the letter. It isn't easy, but it is so worth it.
***Did you notice that none of the above say "tried to..." No. I did stuff. Trying isn't good enough. Just so you know what you're looking at with your a. There is no try with this thing. There is only do. If you don't see a whole bunch of the above, you aren't looking at recovery at your house. We do recover, some of us. I'm living proof, today. But if you don't see the above behavior, run the other way. And just so you know...even if we do all of the above, it isn't that pretty.
Love,
KJ
Although most of you know me as a recovering codie, I'm also a recovering addict.
Just so you know what recovery looks like:
Daily meetings for a year.
All new clean friends.
Going to work at my job on time every day. Even when ill.
Going to appointments with addictionologist every month. On time.
Followed doctors' advice exactly.
Broke off all relationships with users, including b/f.
Didn't tolerate chronic relapsers in my life. If you use, you lose me. I can't be around it. Period.
Got a sponsor. Did what she said.
Worked steps.
Made amends.
Helped newcomers, but didn't hang out with them apart from meetings if they are using.
Hung with the winners. People who could show me how to do it.
Took care of my kids.
Kept my home neat and clean
Worked on keeping my side of the street clean.
I'm not saying I did it perfectly, but I really followed those above "suggestions" to the letter. It isn't easy, but it is so worth it.
***Did you notice that none of the above say "tried to..." No. I did stuff. Trying isn't good enough. Just so you know what you're looking at with your a. There is no try with this thing. There is only do. If you don't see a whole bunch of the above, you aren't looking at recovery at your house. We do recover, some of us. I'm living proof, today. But if you don't see the above behavior, run the other way. And just so you know...even if we do all of the above, it isn't that pretty.
Love,
KJ
Way to go girl!
I've followed many of your threads over the last year and I know you've worked your butt off! You've grown so much over the last year.
It works when we work, you are so right!
I'm proud of you! I'm grateful to be able to walk this road with you.
Keep shining girl!
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Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: East Tawas, MI
Posts: 3,683
Congratulations KJ. It works if you work it
My daughter has 10 months and she is doing what you are, although not perfectly either. Last night she told me she is feeling like she needs to start a fourth step as she has been feeling a lot of guilt lately about the things she did to feed her addiction. I think that she needed time to deal with being clean before she was ready to deal with her past. Continued prayers for you and your recovery. Hugs, Marle
My daughter has 10 months and she is doing what you are, although not perfectly either. Last night she told me she is feeling like she needs to start a fourth step as she has been feeling a lot of guilt lately about the things she did to feed her addiction. I think that she needed time to deal with being clean before she was ready to deal with her past. Continued prayers for you and your recovery. Hugs, Marle
Attitude of Gratitude
Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Dayton, Ohio
Posts: 2,305
CONGRATULATIONS KJ!!!
Has it been a year already!? It's been such a pleasure watching you grow in your Journey called Recovery. I remember when you first introduced yourself, I "saw" this sweet, yet shy lady who was so eager to find happiness. You so openly asked questions here on SR and in Meetings and told us about the situations that took place, and I was sitting here in my chair, just watching this wondrful lady grow right before our very eyes.
You always have a kind word when someone is down, a swift kick when someone needed one yet you remained a friend throughout.
Although most of you know me as a recovering codie, I'm also a recovering addict.
Just so you know what recovery looks like:
Just so you know what recovery looks like:
Congratulations again!
God Bless,
Judy
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: NY
Posts: 1,054
I love success stories. You know why I love them so much because I don't hear them very often!! KJ you are a success story!! You are LIVING proof that recovery is possible!!! Good Job!! Believe me, I know how hard it is, but with faith it gets much easier. The light, the love, the peace, the fun and the rewards are worth it all, aren't they. I hope you have a great big celebration!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!
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