hopefulone

I am very angry today and I don't "do" anger well- is that a codey thing? Anyway my exAhubby is in the hospital for depression/bipolar and drug addiction. My oldest daughter isn't handling it well. I have been trying to date and that isn't going well- just don't like the men I meet. I am lonley AND have to watch my exAB dating someone casue he lives right across the street from me! I AM ANGRY and don't know what to do with my anger!

Freedom1990

Anger definitely isn't a pleasant emotion. I grew up in a household where it wasn't appropriate to express anger, though it was always running just under the surface.

I was a great 'stuffer', still can be if I don't watch it. Then eventually I end up puking it all up in one big ball of rage.

Beat on a pillow, scream into a pillow, I've even taken balled-up socks and thrown them at the wall over and over and over till I was worn out! Those are a few things I've done to get anger out.

cece1960

Me too freedom

However, I have occassionally found anger to be a good motivator too. Is relocating an option?
Can you put some nice blinds up in the front and spend more time in the back of your home?

It just seems to me that him living across the street is still having a front row seat to the circus.

BTW...I doubt that his "dating interests" are having a ball with things just now

hopefulone

No moving is NOT an option for me or him unfortunately. I cannot afford to move and don't want to uproot my kids, plus I love my house and it is all mine! he tried to move but couldn't sell and has so much bad credit that he can't afford anywhere else. So I am stuck seeing him- the worst part is that he brings out the worst of my codey ways- I still love him (WHY? WHY?) and have spend the past 18 months getting over him and learning to live across the street from him. I have made so much improvement on myself and have really worked my own program and that feels great- I am just struggling what to do with my residual anger when it pops up!