Ann

You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go

Staying Out of the Middle

"I don't want to get in the middle, but . . ." is a sign that we may have just stepped into the middle.

We do not have to get caught in the middle of other people's issues, problems, or communication. We can let others take responsibility for themselves in their relationships. We can let them work out their issues with each other.

Being a peacemaker does not mean we get in the middle. We are bearers of peace by staying peaceful ourselves and not harboring turmoil. We are peacemakers by not causing the extra chaos created when we get in the middle of other people's affairs and relationships.

Don't get in the middle unless you want to be there.

Today, I will refuse to accept any invitations to jump in the middle of others' affairs, issues, and relationships. I will trust others to work out their own affairs, including the ideas and feelings they want to communicate to each other.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.

Ann

I was one of those people who lived in the middle most of my life, directing, refereeing, appeasing, and communicating for those who didn't want to communicate...it wasn't easy running the universe, you know?

Today I ask myself, "Does it have my name written all over it?" and if not...then I don't own it, not any of it.

It's amazing how things manage to work themselves out between others when I just stay on the sidelines minding my own rose smelling business.

Hugs

winnie12

Being in the middle means you get hit from both sides. I'd rather stand on the outside now safely out of the range of fire.

Ann - I always love these posts - again thanks!

Serenity Bound

Ann, Big lesson for me.....one that I'm still learning.

splendra

If you can stay out of the middle don't forget to be aware of the ditch...