lilmami

Hi as some of you know my partner went into rehab after detox 1 month ago and I haven't heard anything,I am doing lots of me things catchingup with mates going to beach work!! and have been fine but in the last 2 days I have found myself really missing him.Should I assume he doesn't want me around anymore if he hasn't contacted me yet?I'm sorry to sound so dumb just hurt and empty tonight

imallright

Sorry you are feeling so lonely. I wouldn't make any assumptions about him and his recovery. There may be "rules" at the rehab that don't allow contact... who knows. If it is meant to be it will be. In the meantime, sounds like you are doing some good things for you. Keep being kind to yourself and take this opportunity away from the chaos of addiction to reconnect with yourself and do a self-check to help ensure that you are living life to the fullest. You deserve it. Happy thoughts and peace to you.

nelco

just my experience....I was in rehab and we were not allowed to make outside calls. but there was visit days. Hope you can do something nice for you today. x

Seren

(((lilmami))) I'm sorry that you have heard nothing, but maybe there is a no communication rule. Try not to think about it (I know, easier said than done). Keep being kind to yourself. Sounds like you are making progress!!!!

Hugs, HG

24hrsAday

when i was in treatment (89') we could NOT make phone calls.. it was a LOCK DOWN.. and the best 30 day treatment i n the WORLD!

Serenity Bound

Sounds like your making progress, keep up the good work, taking care of yourself, contecting with friends. As the others said, it may be that there is a no contact rule.

Hugs,
Chris

aasharon90

Hi Im Sharon and Im an Alcoholic.

Im similar to 24hrsAday with the
exception of being in rehab for
28 days in Aug.90.

My rehab stay began with
family intervention. So from
the very beginning I was
angry and hurt towards
my family for having me
locked up against my will.

They did for me in getting
me help what i couldnt do
by myself. For that and
them, today im truely
grateful.

However when i was in
rehab filled with anger
towards my spouse I
held onto it even long
after i got out.

Time and working a 12
step program i learned
to let go of those resent-
ments because if i didnt
it would come back to
kill me.

Today I owe my soberiety
life to those 28 days i stayed
in rehab and im so very
grateful for it.

Thanks for letting me share.

nelco

just a though......it was interesting that you called the thread "feeling so empty" my husband got help before me and when he went to rehab i was feeling empty and lost... I had serious co dependancy issues. I cant say about you but it might be worth looking into that.

cessy68

lim,

I'm sorry you are feeling so sad. I don't know much of anything about rehab. I can't give you any answers there- for that I apologize.

I just did want to say- it's never a wise idea to make assumptions about how people think or feel.... all that does is confuse us, and makes it impossible to concentrate on us.....

It leaves you draining your energy on what may be or may not be.

If you have a beach nearby------ lovey , ENJOY !!! For you could be here in New England- where it's 28 degrees out, dark, dismall, and barren.... uck!!!

Lot's of love,
Cessy

lilmami

I know he may not be able to contact,just worried I guess.I don't have co-dep issues,I am very good with the tough love!! LOL We live 4 hours away from each other and I was due to be going up there and he rang me to say he had used!First time in 5 years!So he decided to detox and go to rehab before he relapsed further.I know it is great thet he went in I guess I just miss him as it had been a while since I had seen him anyway.I know he would feel guilty as my dad died of a herion od when I was young and my eldest daughters dad died of an od when I was pregnant,so he hates reminding me of the dreaded H word and when he rang all he did was say sorry over and over.

Spiritual Seeker

With your dad, ex and current BF ...wow

addiction has touched your life

Why does it keep coming around ?
It will until you learn the lesson before you.

That is prob. a good thing that his focus right now is recovery.

lilmami

I keep asking myself why it keeps cropping up!My ex was a friend before we got together and I had known he had used years before but he was clean(I thought) when we were together.My current partner however , I met through the bizarrest way had no knowledge of his usage until I had fallen.When we met he had been clean for 5 years and when he relapsed he used three times in two days and took him self off to detox