Am I in over My Head? I am lost a little...
the girl can't help it
Join Date: Apr 2004
Location: splendraville
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It sounds like your ex had a feel sad card that he played. It sank right into you like a hot knife into butter. I have had a few Hot knives in my butter and it kinda burns and hurts.
I refuse to not pay attention to that kind of stuff anymore
I felt that sad stuff too now I am just mad as hell...
I refuse to not pay attention to that kind of stuff anymore
I felt that sad stuff too now I am just mad as hell...
*~10 YEARS BABY~*
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Originally Posted by splendra 
It sounds like your ex had a feel sad card that he played. It sank right into you like a hot knife into butter. I have had a few Hot knives in my butter and it kinda burns and hurts.
I refuse to not pay attention to that kind of stuff anymore
I felt that sad stuff too now I am just mad as hell...
I refuse to not pay attention to that kind of stuff anymore
I felt that sad stuff too now I am just mad as hell...
We ended up running into Lady Gaga, and hit the stage with her, it was awesome.
Not sad at all, hopefully tomorrow will just get better.
I left my cell phone home last night and turned it off!!!
My guy friends are so protective, I kinda forgot, I had to smile to myself
last night. It was weird for a second, then it felt normal again.......
I had soo much fun last night, I never want to be miserable AGAIN!
"SERIOUSLY"...............
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Miss Done,
I am so glad that had a somewhat happy ending. Happy that you're rid of him, and sad that he wasn't the man we thought he was.
IMHO, I have noticed that sometimes, men of "Professional" or "Authoritative" jobs, like Drs. or Police seem to think they're the Cat's Meow.....don't let them fool you, I've worked with plenty of moron Drs.
Make a list of what you want in a man Done, and when a guy doesn't meet your requirements, kick him to the curb.
Hugs...
glad you're okay, kiddo........
I am so glad that had a somewhat happy ending. Happy that you're rid of him, and sad that he wasn't the man we thought he was.
IMHO, I have noticed that sometimes, men of "Professional" or "Authoritative" jobs, like Drs. or Police seem to think they're the Cat's Meow.....don't let them fool you, I've worked with plenty of moron Drs.
Make a list of what you want in a man Done, and when a guy doesn't meet your requirements, kick him to the curb.
Hugs...
glad you're okay, kiddo........
*~10 YEARS BABY~*
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Thank You Again Everyone.........
Last night we all hung out here and watched movies. Ironically someone wanted to watch "Fear", I love that movie but last night it freaked me
a bit for obvious reasons. Mainly just the way how someone can switch so
fast from nice to crazy....
I have still gotten random calls from unknown numbers, I just don't
answer them and they don't leave messages. I'm sure it's him.
But whatever. I don't care. The thought of him makes me physically
sick now. All my bruises are almost gone, and that makes happy.
It's weird when I was with him, it was kind of like I didn't notice
the bruises, I bruise easy, so I just didn't see them, or I did.
But now it's like even though they are almost gone, I can totally see them.
I still feel weird about it all, I feel much better, I guess now I am really
starting to feel humiliated about it all..........
Anyway, Thanks for listening again everyone, lol, I know after watching that movie, I really can't tell most of my friends they would freak.
Moose, That's a good idea. I need to remember what I will accept and won't also. My boundaries.......
I think me getting involved with anyone in the months of November - January should probably be off limits, lol, those are ALWAYS my worst months,
I never am in my right thinking mind, it happens like clock work.....
I have ideas why they are my worst, but............. I have gotten better
at least.
:ghug2
Last night we all hung out here and watched movies. Ironically someone wanted to watch "Fear", I love that movie but last night it freaked me
a bit for obvious reasons. Mainly just the way how someone can switch so
fast from nice to crazy....
I have still gotten random calls from unknown numbers, I just don't
answer them and they don't leave messages. I'm sure it's him.
But whatever. I don't care. The thought of him makes me physically
sick now. All my bruises are almost gone, and that makes happy.
It's weird when I was with him, it was kind of like I didn't notice
the bruises, I bruise easy, so I just didn't see them, or I did.
But now it's like even though they are almost gone, I can totally see them.
I still feel weird about it all, I feel much better, I guess now I am really
starting to feel humiliated about it all..........
Anyway, Thanks for listening again everyone, lol, I know after watching that movie, I really can't tell most of my friends they would freak.
Moose, That's a good idea. I need to remember what I will accept and won't also. My boundaries.......
I think me getting involved with anyone in the months of November - January should probably be off limits, lol, those are ALWAYS my worst months,
I never am in my right thinking mind, it happens like clock work.....
I have ideas why they are my worst, but............. I have gotten better
at least.
:ghug2
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Glad things are so much better and you're doing better.
Please remember one thing.
*You* didn't let anything happen.
This is *all* on him!
Society loves to blame the victim.
For example, they will ask, "Why did she let him hit her?"
The real question is, "Why does he hit anyone? It's wrong!"
We don't have to buy into what society does.
Indeed, we can and need to be the change.
Because *YOU* did nothing wrong.
*HE* did.
You have no need to feel shame.
*He* does.
The onus is *all* on him.
Leave the blame and the shame where it truely belongs.
I'm proud of you, Miss Done!
Shalom!
Please remember one thing.
*You* didn't let anything happen.
This is *all* on him!
Society loves to blame the victim.
For example, they will ask, "Why did she let him hit her?"
The real question is, "Why does he hit anyone? It's wrong!"
We don't have to buy into what society does.
Indeed, we can and need to be the change.
Because *YOU* did nothing wrong.
*HE* did.
You have no need to feel shame.
*He* does.
The onus is *all* on him.
Leave the blame and the shame where it truely belongs.
I'm proud of you, Miss Done!
Shalom!
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Done thank you for having the courage and strength to come here and vent / ask for help. The support, as always, has been right on! I'm just SO VERY proud of you!!!!!
I was having a time of it last night and I was going through my phone book of who I could call... and there was no way I could contact 99.9% of them because they would not understand.... but fortunately I have an SR friend in my contact list that I could contact and it was SO extremely helpful! So I totally understand what you mean about who you can talk with about what!
God Bless SR!
BIG HUGS to you !!!!!!!!!
I was having a time of it last night and I was going through my phone book of who I could call... and there was no way I could contact 99.9% of them because they would not understand.... but fortunately I have an SR friend in my contact list that I could contact and it was SO extremely helpful! So I totally understand what you mean about who you can talk with about what!
God Bless SR!
BIG HUGS to you !!!!!!!!!
*~10 YEARS BABY~*
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Join Date: Nov 2005
Location: Hollywood
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Glad things are so much better and you're doing better.
Please remember one thing.
*You* didn't let anything happen.
This is *all* on him!
Society loves to blame the victim.
For example, they will ask, "Why did she let him hit her?"
The real question is, "Why does he hit anyone? It's wrong!"
We don't have to buy into what society does.
Indeed, we can and need to be the change.
Because *YOU* did nothing wrong.
*HE* did.
You have no need to feel shame.
*He* does.
The onus is *all* on him.
Leave the blame and the shame where it truely belongs.
I'm proud of you, Miss Done!
Shalom!
Please remember one thing.
*You* didn't let anything happen.
This is *all* on him!
Society loves to blame the victim.
For example, they will ask, "Why did she let him hit her?"
The real question is, "Why does he hit anyone? It's wrong!"
We don't have to buy into what society does.
Indeed, we can and need to be the change.
Because *YOU* did nothing wrong.
*HE* did.
You have no need to feel shame.
*He* does.
The onus is *all* on him.
Leave the blame and the shame where it truely belongs.
I'm proud of you, Miss Done!
Shalom!
I know I need to deal with some past issues, before I keep getting myself into more trouble..
Thank You Hope!~
I was having a time of it last night and I was going through my phone book of who I could call... and there was no way I could contact 99.9% of them because they would not understand.... but fortunately I have an SR friend in my contact list that I could contact and it was SO extremely helpful! So I totally understand what you mean about who you can talk with about what!
God Bless SR!
BIG HUGS to you !!!!!!!!!
God Bless SR!
BIG HUGS to you !!!!!!!!!
I know without a doubt if I had not found SR the day I did , I would not be here, I've been able to get so much help from here, it scares me.
Today was pretty good....
I woke up late, my roommates were gone, and I decided to clean up, when I went to take out the trash which was pretty early still there was a dozen and a half or two, not sure, roses, PINK, sitting outside my door.
yes, I freaked for a second....... I took them too the trash shoot....
(lol, Greet, I always think of you at the trash shoot, you and Big sis)
anyway, I tossed them.
there was no note, nothing..... someone else told me that , it was a typical
thing for them to do, not leave a note, or anything, it's non traceable....
derrr, I did not think of that........
My roommate and I have been gettiong tons of weird text's today.
Very strange......
I don't know what is giong on,,,,, but it's all good.
I don't miss the violence or the screaming, or just being pushed around at all.
I think I tried to minimize so much of how he was, but now that I'm not around it, I keep thinking omg........
I really am happy, I am at peace , I keep saying that, but it's weird, I am just so okay..
I haven't been here in a long time.......
I am more worried about the path I am on, the path I am walking and will walk, I don't care to much how I am perceived.... I am me and no one else.
And I am okay with her, more than I have been in quite some time..
Thank you all again, I was so lost, not so long ago...... Thinking you deserve to be hit, thinking you should be cutting yourself, or all that matters is your weight, is not where I want to be.....
I hope I continue to keep building myself up, I know there are others who want to tear me down, but, I KEEP CLIMBING..........
:ghug
*~10 YEARS BABY~*
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Jewlz......
YouTube - Lady GaGa - Just Dance
YouTube - Lady GaGa - Poker Face (Live in SF @ The Crib)
And yes we did dance like the bad asses that we are, LOL~
YouTube - Lady GaGa - Just Dance
YouTube - Lady GaGa - Poker Face (Live in SF @ The Crib)
And yes we did dance like the bad asses that we are, LOL~
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Miss Done, Thanks for sharing your experiences. I learn alot from you.
Use this experience as a lesson learned. Another tool in your recovery
toolbox! You're recovery is definitely shining.
Use this experience as a lesson learned. Another tool in your recovery
toolbox! You're recovery is definitely shining.
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I hope Mr. Hyde gets a clue soon, as I will hate for him to have to go to the ER to have a dozen pink roses removed from where the sun don't shine, and I know plenty of SR folk who'd happily do the deed. Those thorns can be a b**** 
Sorry to sound all aggro, but this guy's been watching too many movies, where the heroine falls in love with some dude because he turns into a big fat stalker and won't leave her alone and everybody thinks it's so romantic. I swear, I can't watch movies any more!!!
You sound great, Done! Can they trace text messages? Can you text him that if he doesnt' leave you alone you'll get a restraining order? That might put a damper on his nice clean cool-guy image, so I sense he'd avoid that if he could.
Sorry to sound all aggro, but this guy's been watching too many movies, where the heroine falls in love with some dude because he turns into a big fat stalker and won't leave her alone and everybody thinks it's so romantic. I swear, I can't watch movies any more!!! You sound great, Done! Can they trace text messages? Can you text him that if he doesnt' leave you alone you'll get a restraining order? That might put a damper on his nice clean cool-guy image, so I sense he'd avoid that if he could.
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Originally Posted by GiveLove
I hope Mr. Hyde gets a clue soon, as I will hate for him to have to go to the ER to have a dozen pink roses removed from where the sun don't shine, and I know plenty of SR folk who'd happily do the deed. Those thorns can be a b**** Sorry to sound all aggro, but this guy's been watching too many movies, where the heroine falls in love with some dude because he turns into a big fat stalker and won't leave her alone and everybody thinks it's so romantic. I swear, I can't watch movies any more!!!
You sound great, Done! Can they trace text messages? Can you text him that if he doesnt' leave you alone you'll get a restraining order? That might put a damper on his nice clean cool-guy image, so I sense he'd avoid that if he could.
Sorry to sound all aggro, but this guy's been watching too many movies, where the heroine falls in love with some dude because he turns into a big fat stalker and won't leave her alone and everybody thinks it's so romantic. I swear, I can't watch movies any more!!! You sound great, Done! Can they trace text messages? Can you text him that if he doesnt' leave you alone you'll get a restraining order? That might put a damper on his nice clean cool-guy image, so I sense he'd avoid that if he could.
lol, where the sun don't shine.
I don't think the text messages were from him, they were the most bizarre things I've ever seen...... My roommate got most of them, I got two, but they were from all over the US, it was , just weird.... Only thing I can think of is that the radio wires in our house got crossed or something and we were getting other people's text messages. Like sometimes on our phone we will get other people's conversations out of the blue, or sometimes our TV will start talking in Spanish or talk in different speeds.
I say it is from the ghost ,, but others have said we have a weird wire or something in our place.
lol, I dunno......
I think if I threaten him with a restraining order I will add fuel to his fire, the more I just leave it alone the sooner it will keep dying I think.
I am sure he has found or is with someone else or else I would here from him more, but that is fine with me.
I have had to deal with these guys who linger before, eventually they fade away... There are so many girls in Hollywood it is impossible not to find one.
he turns into a big fat stalker and won't leave her alone and everybody thinks it's so romantic.
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Originally Posted by Done_With_It
I think if I threaten him with a restraining order I will add fuel to his fire, the more I just leave it alone the sooner it will keep dying I think.
*~10 YEARS BABY~*
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Originally Posted by outtolunch
Incredibly mature outlook. Your strength is showing/glowing.
to hear I am on the right path, cause I still do get confused.
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(((done)))
my thoughts are that he shoved you. you cannot make excuses for that, personally i would of kicked his you know what....but thats me and that also happens to be one of my issues.
i say that you need to have a sit down and have a good cup of coffee. the caffine with help with the headache and you will be able to sort out the problems, your suspitions(sp? =P), and you may even find out some info that could potentionally help him.
plus hawai'i is the ****.
i love maui. i use to live there part time with my mom.
my thoughts are that he shoved you. you cannot make excuses for that, personally i would of kicked his you know what....but thats me and that also happens to be one of my issues.
i say that you need to have a sit down and have a good cup of coffee. the caffine with help with the headache and you will be able to sort out the problems, your suspitions(sp? =P), and you may even find out some info that could potentionally help him.
plus hawai'i is the ****.
i love maui. i use to live there part time with my mom.
*~10 YEARS BABY~*
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Originally Posted by panduh
(((done)))
my thoughts are that he shoved you. you cannot make excuses for that, personally i would of kicked his you know what....but thats me and that also happens to be one of my issues.
i say that you need to have a sit down and have a good cup of coffee. the caffine with help with the headache and you will be able to sort out the problems, your suspitions(sp? =P), and you may even find out some info that could potentionally help him.
plus hawai'i is the ****.
i love maui. i use to live there part time with my mom.
my thoughts are that he shoved you. you cannot make excuses for that, personally i would of kicked his you know what....but thats me and that also happens to be one of my issues.
i say that you need to have a sit down and have a good cup of coffee. the caffine with help with the headache and you will be able to sort out the problems, your suspitions(sp? =P), and you may even find out some info that could potentionally help him.
plus hawai'i is the ****.
i love maui. i use to live there part time with my mom.
Thank You for your thoughts.
I am not really in the position to help him though. I am "Done-With-Him"......... lol, as some like to say...
I do love Hawaii also, but I also love the Cabana Playboy Mansion tickets for the game, the Juicy Couture stuff, etc. none of it is worth losing myself.
I'd rather hang out with my friends and roommates and be myself and just be me.
I don't think he wants help anyway, I think he likes the power he has....
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