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Ann 12-15-2008 02:04 AM

Language of Letting Go - December 15 - Feelings
 
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go

Feelings

It's okay to have and feel our feelings - all of them.

Years into recovery, we may still be battling with ourselves about this issue. Of all the prohibitions we've lived with, this one is potentially the most damaging and the most long-lived.

Many of us needed to shut down the emotional part of ourselves to survive certain situations. We shut down the part of us that feels anger, sadness, fear, joy, and love. We may have turned off our sexual or sensual feelings too. Many of us lived in systems with people who refused to tolerate our emotions. We were shamed or reprimanded for expressing feelings, usually by people who were taught to repress their own.

But times have changed. It is okay now for us to acknowledge and accept our emotions. We don't need to allow our emotions to control us; neither do we need to allow our emotions to control us; neither do we need to rigidly repress our feelings. Our emotional center is a valuable part of us. It's connected to our physical well being, our thinking, and our spirituality.

Our feelings are also connected to that great gift, instinct. They enable us to give and receive love.

We are neither weak nor deficient for indulging in our feelings. It means we're becoming healthy and whole.

Today, I will allow myself to recognize and accept whatever feelings pass through me. Without shame, I will tune in to the emotional part of myself.


From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.

All About Love 12-15-2008 02:42 AM


Originally Posted by Ann (Post 2023914)
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go

Feelings

It's okay to have and feel our feelings - all of them.

Years into recovery, we may still be battling with ourselves about this issue. Of all the prohibitions we've lived with, this one is potentially the most damaging and the most long-lived.

Thankyou Ann
i have been strugling all day today with my feelings an how amplified they are
i really needed this affirmation that its okay, i am damaged an have been opressed an repressed yet still im ok.
you know however i feel no matter how alone i feel i turn to this board an i always find someone who enhances my spiritual growth, its truly a god job that i found this place
thankyou

Ann 12-15-2008 02:53 AM

I too find what I need here, and courage to stay on a good path.

Feelings are a sign that I am alive and aware. If I need help dealing with feelings, I am grateful that there are always people here top walk beside me.

hugs


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