littlebird77

I would just like to hear your words as to what you do when the addict relapses? I loose it 100% and kick him out. I am trying to see if there is a techinique that can help me with this... Honestly, if he slips ONCE, I call the cops and demand him to be removed. I don't care what the weather is like, rain, snow... OUT!!!... maybe if God willing he gets a sponsor, I can call them instead of the cops?

Thank you!

ladyamalthea

Actually, I don't know if you'd be able to call the sponsor or not, as the sponsor's anonymity in the program would be jeopardized if you knew who they were (or at least this is what ras has told my parents before.... don't know if it's true or not)

The thing is, you have to do what is right for YOU. I don't think there's anything wrong with making them leave when they use, even if it is just once... because that once is likely to lead to another "once," and another, and another... especially when they have not been clean very long.

So, whatever is right for you is what you should do, IMHO.

Ladybugg

Sounds good to me the way you are handling things now~no need to call his sponser as that is up to him.
Addiction is progressive and eventually you will come to the same conclusion...it is almost impossible for most people to live with active addiction forever.
Your are firm and he knows what to expect if he uses...his choice.

Chino

Run like hell is chasing after me, lock the doors, close the blinds, and turn off the ringer on the phone. That's my plan and I'm sticking to it should it happen.

beegee

Good for you Little bird!!! We have to be prepared...
I know that is what I will have to do also if it happens. I am not sure if I will know when it happens unless she is out all night like before. But it sounds like the only way to be able to surrive is to show em the door no matter what.. I like what Chino said too.

Alaia

Sounds like a good plan...I am going to put this one into action for myself. :atv

marle

Chino, You gave me a chuckle even though I know you are dead serious Hugs, Marle

MsPINKAcres

((littlebird77))

hate that your A has relapsed. I have a few questions that have been suggested to me that I would like to share with you - please remember "take what you like & leave the rest"

Do you have previous established boundaries with your A?
Such as no drinking/using in our home?
Do you have set consequences with breaking those boundaries?
(such as: You come home under the influence, you will be escorted off the premises.)
Have these boundaries been discussed with the A during a sober time?
Are there certain actions that must be done for the A to return home after a relapse?


These are just suggestions that I use to help establish distance between my loved ones when they are active and I need to limit my contact with them.

Wishing you Serenity,
Rita