Not Going To Do It

Old 07-14-2008, 03:02 PM
  # 1 (permalink)  
Thread Starter
Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: PA, USA
Posts: 1,292
Not Going To Do It

We called Wk Release today & spoke to one of the guards that knows my AS for a long time. He told us my son only listed his 88 yr old grandfather or me to pick up his clothes. He knew Jim brought them so my dad or I would not have to do the traveling, well now they can stay there cuz I am not picking them up & believe it or not my parents agreed not to go get them either.
The guard said Joey has a racket, laying around, getting 3 squares a day, watching tv while our whole family is left to pick up the pieces. He said Joey has plenty of friends in there, let him make arrangements to have 1 of them pick his clothes up. He said he has 30 days to get them.
He told me to let go so he could work out his problems for himself. Thats exacetly what I am going to do.
rozied is offline  
Old 07-14-2008, 03:36 PM
  # 2 (permalink)  
grateful rca
teke's Avatar
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: atlanta, ga.
Posts: 4,671
hi rosied, sorry to hear about your situation but glad to hear that you are doing what you need to do for yourself, seems like your parents are finally getting the pic and thats a good thing. i''m praying for all of you guys, praying that he finally come to his end and make the decision to follow through on his road to recovery.
teke is offline  
Old 07-14-2008, 03:37 PM
  # 3 (permalink)  
krhea75's Avatar
Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: macomb, il
Posts: 644
Good for you rozied! hang in there!
krhea75 is offline  
Old 07-15-2008, 02:55 AM
  # 4 (permalink)  
Thread Starter
Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: PA, USA
Posts: 1,292
Thanks guys, I am so past worying.
rozied is offline  
Old 07-15-2008, 03:12 AM
  # 5 (permalink)  
Nature Girl
Ann's Avatar
Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: By The Lake
Posts: 60,070
Originally Posted by rozied View Post
Thanks guys, I am so past worying.
Rozied, it is almost a relief to just hit the "enough" point and let them work it all out themselves. I am so glad that your folks are finally reaching that point too, it's just easier when everyone is on the same page.

Sending big hugs, because your recovery and growth is an inspiration to everyone, including me.
Ann is offline  
Old 07-15-2008, 07:15 AM
  # 6 (permalink)  
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: USA
Posts: 427
Letting go seems to be the hardest thing to do for some of us but the best thing for them. I agree it would all be better if everyone was on the same page. They seem to get what they want no matter what when they want it. Your son will too and this time you won't enable him! And you will be stronger for it.
beegee is offline  
Old 07-15-2008, 07:26 AM
  # 7 (permalink)  
pjbs55's Avatar
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: NJ
Posts: 702
I'm glad you spoke with a guard and he told you what he did. I'm sure you are finally relieved to have your parents say enough. I know they would do things you wouldn't. Praying that your son finally gets it NOW.
Hugs coming to you and your family
pjbs55 is offline  
Old 07-15-2008, 07:49 AM
  # 8 (permalink)  
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: dallas texas
Posts: 1,629
Funny when we hear things we know from someone we wouldn't expect it from. Sounds like the guard has been in recovery!
caileesnana is offline  
Old 07-15-2008, 09:14 AM
  # 9 (permalink)  
Jujubee Queen
mooselips's Avatar
Join Date: Nov 2003
Location: Port Charlotte, Florida
Posts: 3,582
Good for you!
I really hope your parents keep their resolve too. It's hard sometimes not to give in when we get those "I feel sorry" for them, feelings.

I never picked up my sons clothes, they were always shipped to our home, (without my permission) and would appear magically on the front porch.

Here's a funny note. We were cleaning our attic the other day, and donchaknow a box of his clothes was up there, with our address marked on them. He never came here to get them. They now BACK on the front porch and being donated to a charity.

THEY may turn back up at the Salvation Army, and my son may end up buying back his own clothes. How funny is that?

Hugs, and serenity...
mooselips is offline  
Old 07-15-2008, 10:12 AM
  # 10 (permalink)  
Ladybugg's Avatar
Join Date: Apr 2004
Location: Ohio
Posts: 233
((rozied)), You are doing the right thing for him and you...hang in will get easier and easier to live your own life and let him live his. Thats the way its supposed to be. Good Job!!!
Ladybugg is offline  
Old 07-15-2008, 10:32 AM
  # 11 (permalink)  
ladyamalthea's Avatar
Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: My House
Posts: 1,122
Blog Entries: 12
Way to go!!! I am do glad that guard was able to clear things up. Makes it easier to detach when we realize that they are not helpless, doesn't it?
ladyamalthea is offline  
Old 07-15-2008, 01:28 PM
  # 12 (permalink)  
Thread Starter
Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: PA, USA
Posts: 1,292
Wow Thanks Guys, It never ceases to amaze me how great this group is. He is in the hands of his HP & from now on he is going to stay there.

Diane That is too, too funny. Imagine buying your own stuff back from the SA.
rozied is offline  
Old 07-15-2008, 02:59 PM
  # 13 (permalink)  
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: australia
Posts: 29

Hi rozied,

Just wanted to say how nice it is, to read of others coming into a strong sense of detachment, and 'over it ness'.

You sound so resigned, which in this case, is a good thing.
Omm anomanom is offline  
Old 07-15-2008, 09:18 PM
  # 14 (permalink)  
greeteachday's Avatar
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: a better place
Posts: 4,047
Well done Rozied!! Sounds like the guard knows a little program too!
greeteachday is offline  

Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

All times are GMT -7. The time now is 12:02 AM.