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Old 07-03-2008, 01:41 PM
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he took my check book

wrote out some checks and the bank gave him the money... i am at work and need to kick him out yet again... i am DONE!
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Old 07-03-2008, 02:22 PM
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I'm sorry you're going through this... all I can say is make sure you're putting yourself first. Whatever you need to do, you can do it!

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Old 07-03-2008, 02:32 PM
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Call the police and file charges! Let them do the heavy work while your at work. I'm sure by now you've called the bank and raised tee total hell with them haven't you? He signed your name to those checks?

PROSECUTE HIM!!! then be done with him.
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Old 07-03-2008, 02:34 PM
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From the bottom of my heart, I feel for you. It makes me sick how stupid an addiction makes someone.

Why can't they see that the value of being clean & not stealing has a far greater value than a quick, cheap lapse? I'll be thinking of you.
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Old 07-03-2008, 02:42 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear about this. I'm sure that you are livid. If he signed your name to the checks he can be charged with forgery. Have you talked to the people at the bank about how to handle this? Makes you realize that you just have to keep everything under lock and key.

It's things like this that make me realize that there is just no dealing with someone in addiction. It's hard enough to deal with someone that is sober.

My heart is going out to you. Vent here all that you need and use your calm to take care of you and do what needs to be done.

Stay safe!
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Old 07-03-2008, 03:27 PM
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Wow. What a betrayal. The behaviors of active addiction know no boundaries and it seems that those of us living with an active A, more often than not, are physically, emotionally, mentally and financially violated on some level.

Good thoughts, prayers and strength to you!

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Old 07-03-2008, 03:29 PM
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I agree....press charges if he signed your name. Things will only get worse if he thinks he's "gotten away" with this.

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Old 07-03-2008, 03:32 PM
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Sorry to hear about the theft. He's gotta go...you can't get the toothpaste back in the tube....
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Old 07-03-2008, 04:26 PM
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TOTALLY AGREE with above posts.

I can't tell you how many times CH stole money from me (OH - in his mind he "borrowed" it). Most recently, he FINALLY gave me a measly $150 for my son's daycare (mind you he hasn't paid a cent in over six months toward his son and daycare is $239 a week!) Then - he stole it from me! But, when he came down from his binge he apparently took money out of his IRA and FINALLY gave me a little - $600 (for six months)- which is better than a poke in the eye, but still a drop in the bucket - and informed me that he was PAYING ME BACK THREE TIMES OVER. That he never stole from me!!! And, this is him talking to me SOBER. crazy.

Oh yeah - and he has stolen my checkbook - and took a check from me so I immediately called the bank and told them to put a hold on that check and if anyone tried to cash it - they were committing fraud!

PRESS CHARGES. Do it. That is the only way they will learn. And as MrsMagoo said - it takes it out of your hands. . .the professionals can do the work. I'm sorry you have to deal with this over a holiday - these addicts are awful.
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Old 07-03-2008, 05:45 PM
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Thanks Lem!
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Old 07-03-2008, 07:55 PM
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you wanna know how slick he is?.... he tried to cash the check, with no id... they would not give him the money. so it looks like he offered some guy in the bank a % if he would cash it under his account. Because this guy was a member of the bank, the bank issued him the money. it seems like he got a cut. so the boyfriend is really not the one in trouble... it's the guy who "helped" him out... now this guy will be charged and will have to testify that my boyfriend made him do it and he was just an accomplice.
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Old 07-03-2008, 08:30 PM
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my ex did the same thing...he also took my home depot card and bought gift cards with it...[they sell them for half the value], and hit my debit every night when I was sleeping for 3 straight weeks before he died...I still get calls from the judicial fraudulant check squad looking for him...Addiction has no conscience...
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Old 07-10-2008, 08:08 PM
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re-cap... terrible experience. the bank refunded me the money. They are done with it on their end because in their eyes and I quote, "It's only one-hundred dollars". It is up to me to go to the police and prosecute. They have no desire to get involved... I really have no case.
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Old 07-10-2008, 09:29 PM
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Sadly that is how the banks handle these things now a days. It is not worth their time, they believe. All they really do is just pass on the "costs" to the customers. I hate to tell you this but once they get away with the theft, they usually continue it, if not with you with others.
You may have to fill out the paperwork with the police just to cover yourself for the future. As the above poster said, she still gets calls asking about him. I do to.. in one conversation the policeman told me, "we know you are not in on it, because we saw that you pressed charges." OMMMMMGGGGG!!!
Guilt by association I guess..

Sadly, you may also have to change banks. I froze my account 3 times and STILL they allowed not written checks but phone payments to go through. (Bank tellers have friends there, too) Eventually I just moved to a different bank.

Just my experience. Sorry you went through this. It is one thing when the addicts shock us with this. The shock of how it works with the system, that was almost worse.
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I went in and sat down with a banker, explained my situation. I closed the account, opened a new one and we put a special password on that account. Other than making a deposit, NOTHING happened with that account w/o the password. It was a bit of a nuisance for me but it was the only thing that kept my money where it belonged.
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Old 07-11-2008, 10:47 AM
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Just go fill out the paperwork at the police station - even if they never get around to prosecuting it, you will still have a police report. That is what I have been doing - just calling the police every single little time he does something and then ordering all the police reports. That way - if and when I do have a custody battle with him, I will have a lot of ammunition. . .
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Old 07-11-2008, 02:31 PM
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Originally Posted by littlebird77 View Post
wrote out some checks and the bank gave him the money... i am at work and need to kick him out yet again... i am DONE!
OMG...I just went through this yesterday. Go to the bank and they will help you fill out all the paperwork to file charges. Mine made copies for me to give the police. I had to go to 3 different police stations cause he went to 3 different branches to cash them. I know exactly how you feel. I am so sorry.
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Old 07-11-2008, 02:51 PM
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Thank you, but I am unsure if you saw my recap. The bank has offered no help in pressing charges. They just refunded me the money. It was not enough money in thier eyes (one-hundred dollars)

NOW... I closed my account with the bank. Need to get a new bank... Need to transfer all my electronic funds into a new account... I need to contact my school loan and have them adjust the accounts... My job needed to adjust thier auto-deposit system... it is just so hard. I am so tired of this...

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OMG...I just went through this yesterday. Go to the bank and they will help you fill out all the paperwork to file charges. Mine made copies for me to give the police. I had to go to 3 different police stations cause he went to 3 different branches to cash them. I know exactly how you feel. I am so sorry.
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Old 07-12-2008, 11:49 AM
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I didn't see that. I was taken for $730, plus they all know me because my work has a business account there too. They were very helpful. The police on the other hand really bothered me. I had to go to 3 different police stations because he cashed the checks @ 3 different local branches. Only one community was very helpful. I don't know if I'll ever see my money though. I hope so, but it won't be soon enough to pay my rent. The bank didn't say anything about it possibly be refunded...maybe cause I knew who did it. Idk?

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Thank you, but I am unsure if you saw my recap. The bank has offered no help in pressing charges. They just refunded me the money. It was not enough money in thier eyes (one-hundred dollars)

NOW... I closed my account with the bank. Need to get a new bank... Need to transfer all my electronic funds into a new account... I need to contact my school loan and have them adjust the accounts... My job needed to adjust thier auto-deposit system... it is just so hard. I am so tired of this...
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