Ann

You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go

Directness

So much of our communication can reflect our need to control. We say what we think others want to hear. We try to keep others from getting angry, feeling afraid, going away, or disliking us. But our need to control traps us into feeling like victims and martyrs.

Freedom is just a few words away. Those words are our truths. We can say what we need to say. We can gently, but assertively, speak our mind.

Let go of your need to control. We do not need to be judgmental, tactless, blaming, or cruel when we speak our truths. Neither do we need to hide our light. Let go, and freely be who you are.

Today, I will be honest with others, and myself knowing that if I don't, my truth will come out some other way.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.

Ann

My friend Hangin' In says it best when she says "Say what you mean and mean what you say...just don't say it mean."

It's okay to say what's in our hearts or on our mind. It's okay if nobody agrees with us or if it's not what they want us to say. It's okay to know our own truth and stand for it, even if we stand alone. It's all okay.

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