beegee

I think Marian that the beauty here is exactly what you said "everyone here knows what you are talking about". Somehow I know that when I write, someone understands and knows. It really helps to know your among friends. Thank you and I love your nic patchoulli.

beegee

greatful it is good to hear that you have communication now. I am not sure what a codie is but I know I read it someplace here. My daughter and I were close befor also but she never was much of a talker. She just came back and was telling me she ran into someone else at the rehab place today that is getting help. I look at her smile and hope so much.

grateful2b

a codie is a codependent....my daughter was "my" addiction..I had a front row seat, bought the popcorn, every moment of her addicted life was my hell..
my happiness, well being depended on who she was, and whether I could fix her or not. I had a lot of guilt about her addiction and I believed it was my job to fix her and that I could! (I spent years when she was very young trying to keep her on the planet through treatment from 2 cancers and I think that made it a bit harder to learn to let go .)
It was torture and I was slowly going mad....Read co-dependent No More by Melody Beattie, I spent a year in therapy, and was shocked to discover just how codie I was...still makes me giggle about how out of the loop I was Found SR and Al-anon and got my life back.
hug, grateful