Please pray with me for my nephew.....
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Please pray with me for my nephew.....
My sister stopped by today to borrow $20.00
Seems work is slow (a food server) and she needed
gas money to go visit her son who's in long term rehab.
He was sentenced after jail to rehab and after that
to a halfway house here in Cincinnati.
He's still in rehab for now.
This young man, who's a couple of years older than
my own son has been an intravenous drug user for
many, many years. He's been in and out of jail.
Lived in flop house and on the streets. He has suffered
for so long from addiction and my sister has been through
he!! and back with him. She's old school, you see. Has
never detached and has suffered so much herself.
She is raising his 5 yo son alone. She works hard and at 56,
really needs some rest. I could go on and on.
Not only does my sister need your prayers, but she just found out
from her son's ragf that he has been diagnosed HIV positive.
She wanted to cry so badly here with me, but because his son is
with her and going to see his dad, she didn't. I held her and told
her she needs to talk this out with others and mourn what is to come.
I feel helpless and hopeless over this young man's situation.
I fought for my own son's life over addiction, only to now have my nephew
lose his life to a fatal disease caused by choices he made during addiction.
I'm going to talk with my son about his cousin. They were never really close, but share the addictive gene. A lot of people in my family share that gene.
It's a horrible disease, addiction. Add to it the heartache of family and friends
and loved ones....
I just don't know anymore. I'm so sad and heartbroken for my sister, her son, his son. The whole drug thing makes me so mad. I can't even describe how
angry I am right now. I just need my friends here to share in a prayer that he doesn't suffer too badly and that my sister can be strong enough to let go and spend the rest of her life in the knowledge that God loves all his children and he will take Steve into his warm embrace when it's time for him to return home.
Thank you and love to you all.
Seems work is slow (a food server) and she needed
gas money to go visit her son who's in long term rehab.
He was sentenced after jail to rehab and after that
to a halfway house here in Cincinnati.
He's still in rehab for now.
This young man, who's a couple of years older than
my own son has been an intravenous drug user for
many, many years. He's been in and out of jail.
Lived in flop house and on the streets. He has suffered
for so long from addiction and my sister has been through
he!! and back with him. She's old school, you see. Has
never detached and has suffered so much herself.
She is raising his 5 yo son alone. She works hard and at 56,
really needs some rest. I could go on and on.
Not only does my sister need your prayers, but she just found out
from her son's ragf that he has been diagnosed HIV positive.
She wanted to cry so badly here with me, but because his son is
with her and going to see his dad, she didn't. I held her and told
her she needs to talk this out with others and mourn what is to come.
I feel helpless and hopeless over this young man's situation.
I fought for my own son's life over addiction, only to now have my nephew
lose his life to a fatal disease caused by choices he made during addiction.
I'm going to talk with my son about his cousin. They were never really close, but share the addictive gene. A lot of people in my family share that gene.
It's a horrible disease, addiction. Add to it the heartache of family and friends
and loved ones....
I just don't know anymore. I'm so sad and heartbroken for my sister, her son, his son. The whole drug thing makes me so mad. I can't even describe how
angry I am right now. I just need my friends here to share in a prayer that he doesn't suffer too badly and that my sister can be strong enough to let go and spend the rest of her life in the knowledge that God loves all his children and he will take Steve into his warm embrace when it's time for him to return home.
Thank you and love to you all.
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There have been a lot of advances in medicine for the treatment of HIV, and people are living longer healthier lives with the disease.
My ex-husband contracted it from sharing needles back in 1986, before a lot was known on how to treat HIV+ folks.
I will definitely keep your nephew in my prayers.
My ex-husband contracted it from sharing needles back in 1986, before a lot was known on how to treat HIV+ folks.
I will definitely keep your nephew in my prayers.
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of course (((((linda)))) my prayer goes out to your family.
HIV is not the death sentence that it used to be. I know several people who got it under control just by taking really good care of themselves and changing their lifestyle. A lot depends on the person and how dedicated they are to getting and staying well.
At this point I am more concerned about your sister as she is the one carrying the load in the real world. Perhaps she could come here and post.
HIV is not the death sentence that it used to be. I know several people who got it under control just by taking really good care of themselves and changing their lifestyle. A lot depends on the person and how dedicated they are to getting and staying well.
At this point I am more concerned about your sister as she is the one carrying the load in the real world. Perhaps she could come here and post.
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Addiction Gene....
Hi Book...,
I have a son that did some drugs but mostly drank...he tried suicide but survived and is now a quadraplegic. The Addiction Gene with Alcoholism & Depression runs rappart through our family history back to grandparents & great grandparents.
I am an alcoholic..sober for 19 years now with the help of AA and other people. My son is 39 now and did try to get sober and help for his depression but just couldn't get it.
My depression is stable right now and I continue to follow-up with my pdoc & take my medications.
I hope you and your son can have a serious & meaningful talk. MY thoughts & prayers will be with you and your family and your sister and her son and grandson. :praying
kelsh
I have a son that did some drugs but mostly drank...he tried suicide but survived and is now a quadraplegic. The Addiction Gene with Alcoholism & Depression runs rappart through our family history back to grandparents & great grandparents.
I am an alcoholic..sober for 19 years now with the help of AA and other people. My son is 39 now and did try to get sober and help for his depression but just couldn't get it.
My depression is stable right now and I continue to follow-up with my pdoc & take my medications.
I hope you and your son can have a serious & meaningful talk. MY thoughts & prayers will be with you and your family and your sister and her son and grandson. :praying
kelsh
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Freedom,
Thank you for your response and support. I really appreciate it.
Your ex-husband has my prayers, as well.
Splendra,
I want to thank you for your input, support, and love.
I'm very sad for my sister, too. She's a high school graduate,
but never had the ability to learn any technology. She has
struggled financially and been codependent all her life.
I've talked with her. Suggested meetings. Given her lots of literature.
She's just "stuck" in her ways. As far as computer access, I've offered
to teach her with mine. She claims she has no time. She doesn't own one,
so I suggested she go to the library. Idk. I've done what I could to help her...
Thanks again for your prayers.
Hugs,
Marle,
I am sad for my nephew. I really am. But the thought that my sister and great nephew are hurting from this makes me ache. The boy is 5 and is on medication for adhd. He's in kindergarten now. He is, to say the least, a stinker. I've given my sister lots of books on child rearing. She's very weak in
that area. Her 3 children have all been in trouble with the law. Her two adult son's are both drug addicts. Her daughter is 22 and has a 5 yo son of her own. She doesn't work or have much desire to. My sister is one of the most loving, generous people there are. That's why she has nothing. She gives it away to her children and grandchildren. I don't see her changing her ways now. It's sad, really.
Thanks for your prayers.
Kelsh,
Thank you so much for your support and prayers.
I did talk with my son earlier. He's in shock.
Thanked God for never using with his cousin.
Feels bad for my sister, too. He's closer to her
than he is to my brother. Gage, the grandson, loves
my son and asks about him all the time.
Sending prayers to you and your son, as well.
Congratulations on your sobriety, too.
Thank you for your response and support. I really appreciate it.
Your ex-husband has my prayers, as well.
Splendra,
I want to thank you for your input, support, and love.
I'm very sad for my sister, too. She's a high school graduate,
but never had the ability to learn any technology. She has
struggled financially and been codependent all her life.
I've talked with her. Suggested meetings. Given her lots of literature.
She's just "stuck" in her ways. As far as computer access, I've offered
to teach her with mine. She claims she has no time. She doesn't own one,
so I suggested she go to the library. Idk. I've done what I could to help her...
Thanks again for your prayers.
Hugs,
Marle,
I am sad for my nephew. I really am. But the thought that my sister and great nephew are hurting from this makes me ache. The boy is 5 and is on medication for adhd. He's in kindergarten now. He is, to say the least, a stinker. I've given my sister lots of books on child rearing. She's very weak in
that area. Her 3 children have all been in trouble with the law. Her two adult son's are both drug addicts. Her daughter is 22 and has a 5 yo son of her own. She doesn't work or have much desire to. My sister is one of the most loving, generous people there are. That's why she has nothing. She gives it away to her children and grandchildren. I don't see her changing her ways now. It's sad, really.
Thanks for your prayers.
Kelsh,
Thank you so much for your support and prayers.
I did talk with my son earlier. He's in shock.
Thanked God for never using with his cousin.
Feels bad for my sister, too. He's closer to her
than he is to my brother. Gage, the grandson, loves
my son and asks about him all the time.
Sending prayers to you and your son, as well.
Congratulations on your sobriety, too.
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(((linda)))
I'm so sorry to hear this ... but agree with the others that huge strides have been made in the treatment of HIV. I will pray that your nephew is ready and willing to give up his old ways and take care of himself, so that he may be there for his son someday. And your sister has my prayers too ... she's lucky to have a loving sis like you in her corner
I'm so sorry to hear this ... but agree with the others that huge strides have been made in the treatment of HIV. I will pray that your nephew is ready and willing to give up his old ways and take care of himself, so that he may be there for his son someday. And your sister has my prayers too ... she's lucky to have a loving sis like you in her corner
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((((Linda))))
I feel really sad for your sister.
It must be so hard to see her suffer and to want to help her but to think that she's stuck in her own way of dealing with everything.
It makes me think about all of my friends and family who held me up and told me they loved me as I watched my exah spiral into addiction. It makes me sad to think about how much I know they all worried about me and probably wanted to shake the stuffing out of me and tell me to 'wake up' and smell the coffee as I lived in denial and suffered for so long. But not one of them did anything of the kind...they just told me they loved me and eventually I found a better way to deal with it all.
Ya know...we all have to find our way at our own pace and in our own time.
For now, she knows you love her and she knows there is another way to deal with all of this...you've planted a seed. I pray that it grows. Your recovery shines for her even if you think she doesn't notice it.
Prayers for you and your sister...and most especially her son.
I feel really sad for your sister.
It must be so hard to see her suffer and to want to help her but to think that she's stuck in her own way of dealing with everything.
It makes me think about all of my friends and family who held me up and told me they loved me as I watched my exah spiral into addiction. It makes me sad to think about how much I know they all worried about me and probably wanted to shake the stuffing out of me and tell me to 'wake up' and smell the coffee as I lived in denial and suffered for so long. But not one of them did anything of the kind...they just told me they loved me and eventually I found a better way to deal with it all.
Ya know...we all have to find our way at our own pace and in our own time.
For now, she knows you love her and she knows there is another way to deal with all of this...you've planted a seed. I pray that it grows. Your recovery shines for her even if you think she doesn't notice it.
Prayers for you and your sister...and most especially her son.
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Sending prayers for all of you during this difficult time in your family. A special prayer for your sister that she get some much needed time for herself, that she becomes willing to really listen to some of the advice you have offered, and for that little boy, may he find a way to follow in the foot steps of more positive members of your family ---remember, he has your genes too.
(((hugs))), Rica
(((hugs))), Rica
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Bookmiser, I have been on this site for only an hour or so, and you have already lifted me and given me hope. I will pray for your nephew in Cincinnati. My thoughts and prayers are with your entire family. Thanks.
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i am so sorry about all of this. you, your sister & her son & grandson all have my prayers. maybe u can have a talk with your sister & see if you can get her to go to a meeting with you.she needs alot of support as we all do. hugs to you & keep taking care of you.
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(((((Linda))))
I feel so sad for your sister. Her heart is broken, poor girl. I will keep you and your family in prayer. I agree with the others.....today with the modern medicine there is a lot of help for HIV. I pray he gets the help he so desperately needs.
Love............Lo
I feel so sad for your sister. Her heart is broken, poor girl. I will keep you and your family in prayer. I agree with the others.....today with the modern medicine there is a lot of help for HIV. I pray he gets the help he so desperately needs.
Love............Lo
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(((Linda)))
Hugs and prayers to you, your sister, your nephew and great-nephew.
Your sister reminds me of something from when I was a child. When someone was doing something I didn't agree with, my g'ma would say "well, what are you going to do with them?" and I always said "just love 'em". You can't make her put her focus on HER, but love is a wonderful thing to give her.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy
Hugs and prayers to you, your sister, your nephew and great-nephew.
Your sister reminds me of something from when I was a child. When someone was doing something I didn't agree with, my g'ma would say "well, what are you going to do with them?" and I always said "just love 'em". You can't make her put her focus on HER, but love is a wonderful thing to give her.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy
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