bookmiser

Taken from the book "Better Boundries: Owning and Treasuring Your Life" by
Jan Black and Greg Enns.


The Guarantees of Boundries

* You will sometimes feel afraid and awkward.
* You will improve setting your boundries with practice.
* Most people will adjust to your boundries, like water parting for a stone.
* You will be blindsided or fooled by interlopers who appear to be good for you
but aren't (it's happened to most people at least once).
* You will experience a new peace and calmness.
* Your life will be less cluttered and distracted.
* A sense of direction will emerge.
* You will have room to enjoy those people who enrich and inspire you.
* You will attract others with healthy boundries.
* Friends who don't like your boundries may lose interest.
* You will spend less time repairing your life and more time enhancing it.
* You will have less reason to retract, amend, feel guilty or embarrassed.
* You will have more energy and clarity.
* You will have more enthusiasm and hope.
* You will enjoy a new sense of control over your life.
* You will be more willing to take intelligent risks because you will kknow how
set limits to protect yourself.
* You will know how to respond to boundary violations.
* You will have more understanding and respect for other people's boundries.
* You will experience increased creativity, excitement, and passion.
* You will have more time to spend with the people you love.
* You will come to believe that boundrary-setting based on treasuredness is
the most freeing skill you have ever learned.


There is something wonderful and indescribable about owning and loving
your life.
Why wait for the other shoe to drop? Get strarted on treasuring you.

That last part was my own words. Tee Hee! I love you all.

splendra

Wow Thanks(((Linda))) for posting this I especially liked the last part!

greeteachday

Yup...Me too!!!

lightseeker

sure wish that I had gotten to work on my boundaries a lot sooner but I suppose that I wasn't ready until I was ready. Talk about the promises coming true -

Thanks for sharing this!

Live

Awesome, I vote for a sticky for this one!

AliceinWndrland

thank you - it's always funny how these things seem to come along at just the right time...

Hangin' In

Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries....hmmmmmmmm, it's been a hard lesson to learn, but once I started catching on, oh my, it's just the most freeing feeling to be able to set a boundary and stick to it.

Thanks for sharing this, Book. I'm saving it on my computer in my "Good Stuff from SR" file.

Hugs,
Hangin' In

lightseeker

I vote for a sticky too. Basically, it sums the whole deal up perfectly. I've been reading "Escape from Intimacy" and it really addresses the "co" side of addiction well. We become addicted to a person and their drama and forget to take good care of ourselves.