Update on AH
 

Hi all! Just wanted to give you an update on AH. Haven't posted in a while. Been SO busy with work and 3 kiddos running around, you know how it goes ;) Anway, my AH finished treatment and has been back home for 3 weeks and it has been the best 3 weeks we've had together in about 3 years. He is completely different, funny, happy, loving. He hasn't been like that in so long, I'm beginning to remember why I fell in love with him! He's still involved in his treatment program. He went all day every day and came home at night during week 1 he was out and week 2 he went to one group a day and this week he went to 3 groups. He has gotten through Step 6 in the BIG BOOK, goes to at least 1 meeting a day and talks to his sponsor about 2x a day. Our relationship is blooming, I can't tell you the excitement I fell, seeing him returning to be the man I love and the father of my children. I have such high hopes. Our communication is amazing. He actually talks to me now! No more being mad and I never knew why
As for me, I took off an entire week last month. I stayed at home but sent the kids to school everyday and went shopping, got my hair done, went tanning, READ A BOOK! It was great to take time......just for ME! I have been going to the Al-ANon meetings on Fridays, My AH and I make a date night. I go to the Al-Anon meeting and he goes to the AA meeting, then we have dinner! I still have a few reservations about the Al-Anon and not sure if it's a good fit for me or not, but I told everyone I would give it a try, so after tonight, I will decide if I want to continue with it.
I do have a question though........Have any of you found that perhaps Al-Anon was just not right for you?
My Ah's counselor and family counselor have been really pressuring me to continue them and when I made it clear that I had not decided wether I would continue or not, they started saying, I couldn't be there for him if I didn't go to Al-Anon, and his counselor said I wouldn't get past his drug abuse if I didn't attend meeting etc.
Don't get me wrong, I think Al-Anon is a fantastic organization, but I don't believe i HAVE to go or I won't be able to support my AH. And I have found the meeting informative, to a point. But from what I understand, usually meetings are bigger and do more than read from the book- I can read the book at home;) But I live in a small town and the biggest our meetings have been is 4 people. Anyway, sorry so long and a HUGE Thanks to everyone for their support!!! You guys have helped me more than you will ever know!!!!!!!
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I have been to many meetings that I don't enjoy. I have to remember that AA/NA/Alanon is everywhere and if there is a meeting I don't like, try another one. Try a different group or a different time. I struggle with finding a group that I can really relate to also.

I'm in Alaska too! There is one other SR who is in AK too.

WOW! Someone else in the north! Finally someone who understands what snow:bounce REALLY is ;)

i believe in meeting but i also think that some are not as good as others. i think you can have a program in your life without them. i think S.R. is a great program. also there are books in the libery that you can read. there is alot of different ways to learn how to take care of you. u can support your husband just by going to his open meetings & working your program. i am glad things are going good for you.prayers,