Language of Letting Go - March 3
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Language of Letting Go - March 3
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Accepting Ourselves
While driving one day, a woman's attention focused on the license plate of the car ahead. The license read: B WHO UR. How can I? she thought. I don't know who I am!
Some of us may have felt confused when people encouraged us to be ourselves. How could we know ourselves, or be who we are, when, for years, many of us submerged ourselves in the needs of others?
We do have a self. We're discovering more about ourselves daily. We're learning we're deserving of love.
We're learning to accept ourselves, as we are for the present moment - to accept our feelings, thoughts, flaws, wants, needs, and desires. If our thoughts or feelings are confused, we accept that too.
To be who we are means we accept our past - our history - exactly as is.
To be ourselves means we are entitled to our opinions and beliefs - for the present moment and subject to change. We accept our limitations and our strengths.
To be who we are means we accept our physical selves, as well as our mental, emotional, and spiritual selves, for now. Being who we are in recovery means we take that acceptance one step further. We can appreciate our history and ourselves.
Being whom we are, loving and accepting ourselves, is not a limiting attitude. Accepting and loving ourselves is how we enable growth and change.
Today, I will be who I am. If I'm not yet certain who I am, I will affirm that I have a right to that exciting discovery.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
Accepting Ourselves
While driving one day, a woman's attention focused on the license plate of the car ahead. The license read: B WHO UR. How can I? she thought. I don't know who I am!
Some of us may have felt confused when people encouraged us to be ourselves. How could we know ourselves, or be who we are, when, for years, many of us submerged ourselves in the needs of others?
We do have a self. We're discovering more about ourselves daily. We're learning we're deserving of love.
We're learning to accept ourselves, as we are for the present moment - to accept our feelings, thoughts, flaws, wants, needs, and desires. If our thoughts or feelings are confused, we accept that too.
To be who we are means we accept our past - our history - exactly as is.
To be ourselves means we are entitled to our opinions and beliefs - for the present moment and subject to change. We accept our limitations and our strengths.
To be who we are means we accept our physical selves, as well as our mental, emotional, and spiritual selves, for now. Being who we are in recovery means we take that acceptance one step further. We can appreciate our history and ourselves.
Being whom we are, loving and accepting ourselves, is not a limiting attitude. Accepting and loving ourselves is how we enable growth and change.
Today, I will be who I am. If I'm not yet certain who I am, I will affirm that I have a right to that exciting discovery.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
Nature Girl
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I was probably close to 50 when I got to meet that stranger called "me". Until then I was always the reflection of those I loved...my mother's daughter, my husband's wife, my son's mother...and the truth was that by being all those things was exhausting but kept me from looking deep inside to discover who I was and what I wanted from life.
Today I love that no-longer-stranger called "me", warts and all. I am busy making up for lost time, making my dreams come true and chasing my own rainbows.
It took time, it took work, and it took a lot of self-reflecting before I became comfortable in my own skin, but it was worth every moment, good and bad, that brought "me" to where I am today and gave me my life back.
Hugs
Today I love that no-longer-stranger called "me", warts and all. I am busy making up for lost time, making my dreams come true and chasing my own rainbows.
It took time, it took work, and it took a lot of self-reflecting before I became comfortable in my own skin, but it was worth every moment, good and bad, that brought "me" to where I am today and gave me my life back.
Hugs
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