Falling Apart - Need Some Guidance
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Falling Apart - Need Some Guidance
Hello everyone
My son is still missing. Haven't heard a thing. He has been gone since December 11th. The only answer is so called buddies can give anyone is that "he jumped off the bridge" and no one seems to care or tried to stop him. They all just went on with their little lives as usual.
He ex-gf thinks he is dead as well.
I am the only one. I am left here with no answers, no closure, nothing!
Most of the time I try to be positive but the last few days have been really hard.
I just found out that I am pregnant and I am trying to keep myself calm and not let myself to get too emotional.
I just need some guidance. I am just not handling this well right now.
Thank you for letting me vent.
My son is still missing. Haven't heard a thing. He has been gone since December 11th. The only answer is so called buddies can give anyone is that "he jumped off the bridge" and no one seems to care or tried to stop him. They all just went on with their little lives as usual.
He ex-gf thinks he is dead as well.
I am the only one. I am left here with no answers, no closure, nothing!
Most of the time I try to be positive but the last few days have been really hard.
I just found out that I am pregnant and I am trying to keep myself calm and not let myself to get too emotional.
I just need some guidance. I am just not handling this well right now.
Thank you for letting me vent.
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Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: Cincinnati OH
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Stephensmom.. have you reported your son missing? If he infact did jump from a bridge - I would think that by now someone would of found a body. I think I would most certainly be having some conversations with my High Power, so that maybe you'd have some peace or mind..
Trying to get out of God's way
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Freeland Michigan
Posts: 60
I would absolutely get the police involved if they are not already...I'm sorry this is happening to you and your son, please keep us updated...I am praying for you and your son!
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Join Date: Jan 2005
Location: ohio
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How ironic!
Dec. 11th is when my son walked out of our home, saying only...."See you later, going to Dub's"!
I did not know if he was dead or alive, but did not "feel" he was dead.
I found out on April 23rd, that he was living in a connecting county, strung out on crystal meth.
I know what you are going through!
I did not report my son, because I "felt" drugs were involved.
Alot has occured between that date and now....several years have pasted....but most importantly....he has been clean for almost 2 years, works a great job (everyday), and has a son, 1 month old.
I'll never know how? he could have just walked away, no contact...he said he was trying to protect me from the chaos....you can't figure-out the reasoning of an addict!
TRUST, that his HP is with him!
Dec. 11th is when my son walked out of our home, saying only...."See you later, going to Dub's"!
I did not know if he was dead or alive, but did not "feel" he was dead.
I found out on April 23rd, that he was living in a connecting county, strung out on crystal meth.
I know what you are going through!
I did not report my son, because I "felt" drugs were involved.
Alot has occured between that date and now....several years have pasted....but most importantly....he has been clean for almost 2 years, works a great job (everyday), and has a son, 1 month old.
I'll never know how? he could have just walked away, no contact...he said he was trying to protect me from the chaos....you can't figure-out the reasoning of an addict!
TRUST, that his HP is with him!
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He was reported missing three days after he left.
I speak with the detective every couple of weeks just to check in and if I have info that I feel she needs to know I tell her. She said that she was concerned as well. She figured that he would have come around by now.
I am just going to pray that he is ok and maybe he doing what he feels he needs to do right now. Maybe he is protecting me from his issues since he knows that I wasn't able to take much more after the last round of drama.
Well thank you all.
I speak with the detective every couple of weeks just to check in and if I have info that I feel she needs to know I tell her. She said that she was concerned as well. She figured that he would have come around by now.
I am just going to pray that he is ok and maybe he doing what he feels he needs to do right now. Maybe he is protecting me from his issues since he knows that I wasn't able to take much more after the last round of drama.
Well thank you all.
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: dallas texas
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I know that awful feeling, I learned recently that the first way to ID someone in a morgue is w/ fingerprints. So even though my AD doesn't have ID, if something happens, they can find next of kin.
Prayers Steven is alive and God is looking after him, and that he will make some better choices for his life.
love and prayers,
susan
Prayers Steven is alive and God is looking after him, and that he will make some better choices for his life.
love and prayers,
susan
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Join Date: Sep 2005
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please know that you and your son are in my prayers...
I can not imagine your pain but I do know that each of us is..."there but for the grace of God"
may blessings accompany you on this difficult journey
I can not imagine your pain but I do know that each of us is..."there but for the grace of God"
may blessings accompany you on this difficult journey
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Join Date: Mar 2006
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((((Stephens mom))) I have been thinking of you and wondering how things were going. I am so sorry that you still do not know where your son is. I can't imagine the pain. Please know I continue to pray for you and your son and now your baby every day.
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Join Date: May 2007
Location: Calif coast
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((((StephensMom)))) Addicts often disappear. What is disturbing here is the "bridge" report.
Your anguish must be getting to the unbearable point.
Can you get a face-to-face or phone conversation again with these "so-called buddies" to get more info?
Your anguish must be getting to the unbearable point.
Can you get a face-to-face or phone conversation again with these "so-called buddies" to get more info?
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Join Date: Jul 2003
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(((loving hugs)))
Prayers going up to Higher Power to bring you the comfort and strength you need. Perhaps this baby is what will give the ability to not obsess about something, that is indeed terrible, but is also out of your control.
I wish you the best and hold you and Stephen up in prayer.
Prayers going up to Higher Power to bring you the comfort and strength you need. Perhaps this baby is what will give the ability to not obsess about something, that is indeed terrible, but is also out of your control.
I wish you the best and hold you and Stephen up in prayer.
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Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: By The Lake
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My prayers go out for your son and for you. I agree that the "missing" part is not so unusul, my own son has been missing for 3 years, but the bridge rumour really needs to be checked.
If it helps, what keeps me sane is to say a prayer each morning asking God to take care of my son. That helps me feel less helpless because I know I am powerless but God can do for us what we cannot do for ourselves.
Please know that we're here to support you, and please take good care of yourself and the baby.
Hugs
If it helps, what keeps me sane is to say a prayer each morning asking God to take care of my son. That helps me feel less helpless because I know I am powerless but God can do for us what we cannot do for ourselves.
Please know that we're here to support you, and please take good care of yourself and the baby.
Hugs
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