Is "No Contact" a form of "tough love"?
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Okay, LiveLife, I'll meet you halfway between the "kick 'em to the curb" songs and the "I can't LIIIVVEE without him" sap:
Dixie Chicks (I think?)
I'm Gonna Let Him Fly.... It reminds me of acceptance and being ready to move on!
Dixie Chicks (I think?)
I'm Gonna Let Him Fly.... It reminds me of acceptance and being ready to move on!
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How about "Landslide" (Fleetwood Mac version or Dixie Chicks version depending on your preference) Always one of my favorite songs, but became an anthem when I found recovery.
"I've been afraid of changin', cause I built my life around you. But time makes you bolder, children get older, and I'm gettin' older tooooooooooooo."
L
"I've been afraid of changin', cause I built my life around you. But time makes you bolder, children get older, and I'm gettin' older tooooooooooooo."
L
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hi everyone ..im feeling better today.
its up and down..but mostly up , as time goes along!
posting here made me realize that not only did it come to this point because he is "sicker"...BUT more because IVE BEEN GETTING BETTER ALL ALONG!
for the first year of dating..i was pretty sucked in and helping him with his child, jumping for him...trying to make him happy..but then i got into alanon a bit...the literature, reading and awareness...and i started to cut back and draw boundaries.
the more i got back to ME.. and didnt react, and adapt to him , and his agenda..well the more upset, frustrated, unhappy he was with me!
he was never one to yell, curse me , be physical or any of that.
i never feared him at all..but he sure did know how to pull out the abandonment card when necessary to hit me with the emotional 1-2 punch!
and it hurts just as much.
so im not minimizing emotional abuse/ head games!
Anyway..all the posting yesterday got me to thinking and seeing the clarity..
that it was because i am getting better...living my life, not bowing to his majesty...lol., and HE JUST WOULD NOT HAVE IT.
and i guess i am paying for getting emotionally healthier and stronger...and yeilding to him.
payback is a bitch!
thanks for your support , insight and sharing your wisdom..and your humor too.
i was thinking of all songs last night as i was going to sleep..! lol
how about
led zeps..
YOUR TIME IS GONNA COME!!
big hugs gang.
its up and down..but mostly up , as time goes along!
posting here made me realize that not only did it come to this point because he is "sicker"...BUT more because IVE BEEN GETTING BETTER ALL ALONG!
for the first year of dating..i was pretty sucked in and helping him with his child, jumping for him...trying to make him happy..but then i got into alanon a bit...the literature, reading and awareness...and i started to cut back and draw boundaries.
the more i got back to ME.. and didnt react, and adapt to him , and his agenda..well the more upset, frustrated, unhappy he was with me!
he was never one to yell, curse me , be physical or any of that.
i never feared him at all..but he sure did know how to pull out the abandonment card when necessary to hit me with the emotional 1-2 punch!
and it hurts just as much.
so im not minimizing emotional abuse/ head games!
Anyway..all the posting yesterday got me to thinking and seeing the clarity..
that it was because i am getting better...living my life, not bowing to his majesty...lol., and HE JUST WOULD NOT HAVE IT.
and i guess i am paying for getting emotionally healthier and stronger...and yeilding to him.
payback is a bitch!
thanks for your support , insight and sharing your wisdom..and your humor too.
i was thinking of all songs last night as i was going to sleep..! lol
how about
led zeps..
YOUR TIME IS GONNA COME!!
big hugs gang.
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Join Date: Dec 2007
Posts: 53
hi everyone ..im feeling better today.
its up and down..but mostly up , as time goes along!
posting here made me realize that not only did it come to this point because he is "sicker"...BUT more because IVE BEEN GETTING BETTER ALL ALONG!
for the first year of dating..i was pretty sucked in and helping him with his child, jumping for him...trying to make him happy..but then i got into alanon a bit...the literature, reading and awareness...and i started to cut back and draw boundaries. (plus i was just too exhausted !)
the more i got back to ME.. and didnt react, and adapt to him , and his agenda..well the more upset, frustrated, unhappy he was with me!
he was never one to yell, curse me , be physical or any of that.
i never feared him at all..but he sure did know how to pull out the abandonment card when necessary to hit me with the emotional 1-2 punch!
and it hurts just as much.
so im not minimizing emotional abuse/ head games!
Anyway..all the posting yesterday got me to thinking and seeing the clarity..
that it was because i am getting better...living my life, not bowing to his majesty...lol., and HE JUST WOULD NOT HAVE IT.
and i guess i am paying for getting emotionally healthier and stronger...and not yeilding to him.
payback is a bitch!
thanks for your support , insight and sharing your wisdom..and your humor too.
i was thinking of all songs last night as i was going to sleep..! lol
how about
led zeps..
YOUR TIME IS GONNA COME!!
people ask me what happened between us..and i say..
HE WANTED TO CONTROL ME AND HE COULDNT AND THAT DID NOT SIT WELL WITH HIS DISEASES AGENDA.
big hugs gang.
its up and down..but mostly up , as time goes along!
posting here made me realize that not only did it come to this point because he is "sicker"...BUT more because IVE BEEN GETTING BETTER ALL ALONG!
for the first year of dating..i was pretty sucked in and helping him with his child, jumping for him...trying to make him happy..but then i got into alanon a bit...the literature, reading and awareness...and i started to cut back and draw boundaries. (plus i was just too exhausted !)
the more i got back to ME.. and didnt react, and adapt to him , and his agenda..well the more upset, frustrated, unhappy he was with me!
he was never one to yell, curse me , be physical or any of that.
i never feared him at all..but he sure did know how to pull out the abandonment card when necessary to hit me with the emotional 1-2 punch!
and it hurts just as much.
so im not minimizing emotional abuse/ head games!
Anyway..all the posting yesterday got me to thinking and seeing the clarity..
that it was because i am getting better...living my life, not bowing to his majesty...lol., and HE JUST WOULD NOT HAVE IT.
and i guess i am paying for getting emotionally healthier and stronger...and not yeilding to him.
payback is a bitch!
thanks for your support , insight and sharing your wisdom..and your humor too.
i was thinking of all songs last night as i was going to sleep..! lol
how about
led zeps..
YOUR TIME IS GONNA COME!!
people ask me what happened between us..and i say..
HE WANTED TO CONTROL ME AND HE COULDNT AND THAT DID NOT SIT WELL WITH HIS DISEASES AGENDA.
big hugs gang.
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