Lost my mom today

Old 02-14-2008, 03:11 PM
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Unhappy Lost my mom today

I need to share this with my family here. This morning my Aunt called me to tell me my passed away early this morning. My father, brother or sister did not call me since they did not want me to know. Long story. I wanted to say my goodbyes to her and ask why she did what she did when I was younger. Well I called the funeral home to make sure she was still there, and was told that I could not come and see her, well I wanted to hit someone right then Had to call my lawyer and threaten a lawsuit just to be able to go and say goodbye.
I did that, and asked my HP to please forgive her of all her sins.
Today I am feeling lost, and very sad for her. I know now that she is at peace, she has been in a nursing home for the past 3 1/2 years with alzheimers (sorry for the spelling). She suffered a stroke this morning and died right away. At least she did not suffer in the end.
Thank you for letting me post this here, I love my family here and know you will always be here to offer me support when it is needed.
Love you all,
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Old 02-14-2008, 03:19 PM
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((((( Hugs)))))) to you, I'm so sorry for your loss and you will be in my prayers tonight
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I am so sorry for your loss.
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Old 02-14-2008, 03:23 PM
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Pam, Sorry for your loss. Sending prayers for your mom's soul. May she rest in peace. And prayers for you too. May you find peace too. Hugs, Marle
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Old 02-14-2008, 03:25 PM
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My thoughts and prayers go out to you. May God get you
through this very tough time.
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Old 02-14-2008, 03:42 PM
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oh, i'm so sorry. prayers of peace, love, and forgiveness to you and your family. k
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Old 02-14-2008, 03:42 PM
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So sorry for your loss may she rest in peace. You take good care too and keep posting out your grief it will help.
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Old 02-14-2008, 03:47 PM
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I'm so sorry about this news....Please accept my condolences. I will be praying for you and the family during this sad time.
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Old 02-14-2008, 03:55 PM
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I'm so sorry. When my mom passed there was so much I wanted to say to her, to ask her, but she wasn't there in her mind. It was one of the hardest times in my life. My sister tried to keep me and my other 4 brothers and sisters away, it was a huge legal mess. It took so much out of me just fighting to have a funeral that I lost the chance to find any peace in mourning her and dealing with so much history that just seemed to be hanging out there. I'm still not over all of it and it's been 10 years.

If I could be there, I would just hug you and let you talk.

Know you have us right there with you.

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Old 02-14-2008, 04:19 PM
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Old 02-14-2008, 04:39 PM
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I am so very sorry for your loss.
I wish you peace.

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Old 02-14-2008, 04:46 PM
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Very sorry for your loss! And not being able to say goodbye the way you wanted. Know now that however you say goodbye, she is with you and will hear you - clearly. I don't know the whole story, but I know the pain of losing a parent. Hugs and prayers to you.
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Old 02-14-2008, 04:54 PM
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I'm so sorry for your loss,
I never got the chance to say goodbye to my sister in law the way I wanted to, there were 'unresolved issues' between us, but I managed to find my own way in time, and now I don't feel like theres unfinished business at all, I hope you'll find a way to sort things out.
They do say its harder for the ones left behind.
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Old 02-14-2008, 05:07 PM
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I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother and the difficulties with your family. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Old 02-14-2008, 05:11 PM
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((( pam ))) ((( pam's mom )))

Sorry for your loss. I hope you will find a good way to reconcile your issues with her... perhaps you can write her a letter and ask your questions and tell her what you want her to know. Your HP will be with you thru this, as will all of us.

Hugs and love
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Old 02-14-2008, 05:23 PM
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I'm sorry about your mom (and your family's reaction).
I am glad you were able to say good-bye to her.
Big hugs to you and have a peaceful night.
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Old 02-14-2008, 05:27 PM
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I'm sorry for your loss.
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Old 02-14-2008, 05:54 PM
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Oh Pam... so sorry. Especially that the chaos had to continue, even unto this point. I am glad you got to say your goodbyes when you did, and am certain that the good, kind woman beneath the disease and anger and pain is the one who could hear you.

I've found that writing letters - even to those who never get them, helps me very much. I've carried many a resentment and hurt around, especially the old ones left over from when I was too young to know how to defend myself. Writing those letters truly helps me put those burdens down. To deliver them - I just burn them and watch the smoke wafting up....

Please know you are in my prayers and accept my condolences for your terrible loss....

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Old 02-14-2008, 06:01 PM
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pj, I am so sorry for your loss.
I pray for your peace while you go through this.
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Old 02-14-2008, 06:08 PM
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(((Pam))) I'm sorry.

When I lost my mom, I too had not said all I wanted to say before she died, so I went one day and sat alone by the water and told her. I think she heard me.

It's okay to sort through your feelings and talk to her, in whatever way helps you get it out.

Sending big hugs and special prayers.
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