Nikki221

My ABF DOC is Rx pills (oxy's mainly) and sometimes cocaine...my question is do these affect his desire to be intimate with me? Lately he's not very affectionate at all and it seems like he doesn't want to have sex. It really hurts my feelings, but I keep telling myself that it's not me...it's the drugs.

Summerteeth

drug addicts tend to become very self-absorbed. in his state he is probably incapable of thinking of your feelings. in relationships, drugs are a deal-breaker.

Jwife22

He probably doesn't want to have sex.........drugs do that to them. They come first.

(((nikki)))

holdingouthope

(((nikki))) my husband's DOC is cocaine and he also did not want to have sex. what i have learned is that drugs affect the brain and make it hard for the addict to experience any pleasure other than the high they get from the drug. it's sad. my husband has often said to me that his "pleasure meter" is broken.

sjr

nikki~
i go to the substance abuse forum sometimes to read and gain insight to the mind of recovering addicts. they actually have a thread going about this topic. i hope you will go read it. lot's of usfull info for you there i think.

sjr

opiates vs sex ~~is the title

Hangin' In

He's operating off his "drug" drive, not sex drive. If he's not in recovery, drugs own him and everything else.

It's not you.

Hugs,
Hangin' In

VanessaLee13

Nikki:
I actually went through several months of feeling SOOO unattractive and like my ABF wanted nothing to do with me. I didn't know about his addiction at the time. I had thought there was just something "wrong" with him--a guy who didn't want to have sex? Well, obviously, it was his addiction to painkillers. Please don't think it is your fault in any way.
Vanessa