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Old 06-22-2013, 02:18 PM
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How blessed you were to have such a brother. I am so very very sorry for your loss, and I send sincere heartfelt wishes for God to comfort your hearts.

What beautiful words, for a beautiful soul.
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Old 06-22-2013, 02:49 PM
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So very sorry for your loss.My father lost his battle to addiction 11 years ago and I most certainly feel that his life should still ne remembered for the person he was and not as "an addict".I am now married to an addict and my only brother is an alcoholic. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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JENNY....I used caps so my post would stand out as u are gettin so many! Omg, Ihave tears from ur post and I believe in a higher power and know ur brother is lookin down on u right now!! He's finally free of the horrible grasp of addiction and he's helping more people than he knows....my bf is an oxy addict and wanted clean. I feel an empowerment I can't put in words from u words and will really make sure extremes are met withhis recovery and relapse scenarios! Please accept my condolences because even though I may have not met ur brother, we all on this site, in a way, know him very well! Plz tell ur parents that their son can breathe now, can feel what its like to not be at the mercy of a chemical and is no longer having to hold hands with the devil because God is now holding his hand!!! Love....me
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Old 06-22-2013, 05:52 PM
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Just an FYI - This is a thread from 2008.
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Old 06-22-2013, 06:02 PM
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Thanks Suki.
My sentiments are to Phillip, on your loss yesterday. The original poster is in my thoughts as well, and the post brings us to remember that people who are sick are not to be defined by their sickness, but by the love they generate in this world.

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Old 06-22-2013, 06:07 PM
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I'm not understanding?? Post dated today..
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Old 06-22-2013, 07:33 PM
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Phillip posted today on a thread from 2008, but I appreciate your responses and hope he will return to see them.
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Old 06-22-2013, 08:12 PM
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jenny, i am so sorry for your loss. sending peace & prayers for your family.
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Old 06-22-2013, 08:15 PM
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PhillipTyler Keeping you and your mother in my thoughts. Thank you for your beautiful post. I am so glad to hear of your love for him.

I hope you will be alright and take care of yourself.

Peace always!
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Old 06-23-2013, 01:38 AM
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God bless Paul.

God bless you, Jenny.
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Old 06-23-2013, 05:07 AM
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Originally Posted by jlw1971 View Post
He was a kind soul, but a tortured soul, battling against a demon he was unable to tame despite years of trying.
I saw this post yesterday and I did not have the strength to respond. I too lost my brother to his demons. In some ways I feel he was born with them. It always felt to me as though he was fighting something.

In the end it was the alcohol demon that he could no longer fight.

He died November 4th, 1984. He was 18 years old. Of course 18 or 34. The age does not matter so much, the loss is just as profound.

The wounds I have are just as fresh as if I had lost him yesterday as you have. They say time heals all wounds but I have not let them heal. I have hidden from them. I folded them and placed them in a tiny pocket in my heart. For 28 years I have kept them there. For 26 of those years my alcoholism has helped me keep them there.

Every couple years they would sneak out and haunt me. Usually on the anniversary of his death or his birthday. A birthday he no longer had. He would always be 18.

I kept telling myself I was not angry with him and I had no resentments towards him. It is amazing the things we can hide away. It felt as if I let them go I was letting him go. Since I have been sober God keeps placing people or situations right in my path when I need them most. They seem to walk right next to me. I feel one of them is this post. I feel it is God telling me it is time. It is time to deal with this. It is time to open that tiny pocket and deal with the all the feelings I have hidden away.

28 years ago he lost his battle with his demons, but he is at peace. It is my turn to face my demons and find peace. Even though we will find our peace in different places. His in heaven and mine on earth it will somehow draw us closer together.

In some ways I always hoped that he is my guardian angel. That God has allowed him to look in on me from time to time.

There are no words I can say to ease your pain.

Another sign that God put in my path was a prayer yesterday in the 24 hour book.

06/22/2013 Prayer for the Day

I pray that I may face the future with courage. I pray that I may be given strength to face both life and death fearlessly.
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Old 06-23-2013, 08:51 AM
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Thank you all for your kind words... May we all find the enlightened path we are truly destined for!
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Phillip,

I am so deeply sorry for your loss.


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Old 06-23-2013, 04:56 PM
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I'm sorry for your loss....
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Old 06-23-2013, 05:52 PM
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I am sorry for your loss Jenny.
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I am so sorry for your loss. You are right, he counted. He counted for a lot in this world. The eulogy you wrote is beautiful. Such healing words...

You and your precious family are in my prayers.
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Old 06-23-2013, 08:39 PM
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So sorry for your family's loss. Paul is forever free from the chains of heroin. Off to a better place he goes but will be dearly missed by his loved ones.

My deepest condolence.
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Old 06-23-2013, 09:17 PM
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Really sorry for your family's loss. Your brother is at peace.
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I didnt check the date.

So sorry for your loss Phillip. May your brother rest in peace.
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Old 06-24-2013, 02:26 AM
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PhillipTyler I am sorry. I too did not realize that the original post was from a while ago and although my post was to the original poster I don't think I would have posted anything different.

As I said in my post, I think God has been putting people and situations in my path to make me see I needed to deal with my feelings. I still feel this post was one of them. If you had not posted then I would have never seen this post. Thank you.
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