rahsue

I pray he finds his recovery this time.

hugs and prayers

puddinface

Yes...one day at a time.......he's been staying over at his dads house for about 3 weeks now. (The dad is a functioning alcoholic and pothead) Which explains why he wants to stay there. I dont take it personal anymore. He doesnt like the stability of my household so he chooses to be there. Tomorrow is his birthday...bet he shows up for his birthday present. The sooner he gets in a program the better it will be. Thanks for all my friends.

marle

Sometimes it is those court ordered programs that save them. Prayers that it works for him. Hugs, Marle

bookmiser

It's not you. It's the tantilizing pull of the addiction.
He's not ready. You just have to accept it and focus on you.
That way, when he is ready and needs strength and help seeking recovery,
you'll be there mentally and emotionally for him.
My son spent the night with me last night. Whenever the elderly gf has her
kids visit, usually on Saturday-Sunday, he comes to stay with me. As he was getting picked up by her today, I asked him if he's gonna be alright out there in the boonies. He said, "well, ya could give me 5 bucks for squares, hee hee".
Now, I quit smoking 5 months ago. I think once a day, about how much I miss it and would love to do it, and this kid/grown man, asks me to buy them for him.
I just laughed and said, "not on your life". He accepted it because he knew I was serious and not to even attempt to manipulate me anymore. Thank God. lol
Just 2 years ago, I would have grabbed my wallet right up and told him to go get himself a carton.
My point is, when we give our son over to the care of his HP, who I call God,
we are able to believe in our hearts that their lives will turn out just the way He intended.
That they will finally see the "light", come to their senses, and start on a good path to recovery.
Then we can focus on ourselves, thereby giving them room to grow into the men they can be.