Sweetie: I've never experienced this personally, but have heard about it. Some people prostitute themselves to get drugs. That's what I think of when I think of 'drug whores'. In other words, they give sex in exchange for drugs.

Now mind you: it may not be good, fulfilling sex for them; perhaps for the other person. Because the reality is you are right, being under the influence often decreases their ability to really feel enough sensation to have good sex-such as with opiates, alcohol, downers. Nor do they necessarily WISH to have sex; save for getting drugs. Depending on the type of drug, take away the drug and person's libido often increases.

But even with certain drugs that can increase a person's libido temporarily they eventually crash and burn....

Each time I hear the "W" word here, I think of all the wonderful women I know, here at SR and in real life, who overcame addiction and who are trying to overcome their past and live decent productive lives today...and I cringe.

Maybe let's keep the labels off and just stick to topic?

Is this person still in a relationship with you or in the past and you are still trying to heal from it? You may already shared that and I didn't notice...

Anyhow: His sexual behavior has no bearing whatsoever on your worth! I hope you know that and if you don't know that yet, someday you will believe it. It says absolutely nothing about you. I says a lot about him.

Many folks (for some reason) not just, men, but some women too....seem to think that way to prove their worth is by sexual conquest. For some, they have found the "avenue" of drugs to aid them in that endeavor. You said he had like 20 girlfriends at a time? Well, honey, more power to him and I would never want to be one of that "20", ever! So, if you are out of the relationship, thank your lucky stars and get tested if you haven't already. If you are still in a relationship with him, get out.

Having said, all that, there are some people who are just sex addicts with or without drugs/alcohol being involved. They just can't seem to get enough. Miserable. Disastrous. Devastating. I'm so sorry for your hurt.