Language of Letting Go - November 18
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Language of Letting Go - November 18
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Allowing Ourselves to be Nurtured
Let yourself be nurtured and loved. Let people be there for you. Allow yourself to be held when it would feel good. Let someone listen to you, support and encourage you when you need that. Receive comfort from someone's physical presence when you need that. Allow yourself to be supported emotionally and cared about.
For too long, we've stood in the background, attending to the needs of others and claiming we have no needs of our own. We've shut off, for to long, the part of us that longs to be nurtured.
It is time, now, to claim those needs, to identify them, and to understand that we deserve to have them met.
What are our needs? What would feel good? What kinds of ways would we like others to nurture and support us? The clearer we can be about our needs, the greater the possibility they will be met.
Hugs. A listening ear. Support. Encouragement. The physical and emotional presence of people who care about us. Doesn't that sound good? Tempting?
Someone once said to me, "The eighties have been a 'me' decade. Now, maybe the nineties can be a 'you' decade."
My reply was immediate. "Let's make the nineties a 'me' and 'you' decade."
No matter how long we've been recovering, we never outgrow our need for nurturing and love.
Today, I will open to recognizing my needs for nurturing. I will be open to the needs of those around me too. I can begin taking a nurturing, loving attitude toward myself and by taking responsibility for my needs in relationships.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
Allowing Ourselves to be Nurtured
Let yourself be nurtured and loved. Let people be there for you. Allow yourself to be held when it would feel good. Let someone listen to you, support and encourage you when you need that. Receive comfort from someone's physical presence when you need that. Allow yourself to be supported emotionally and cared about.
For too long, we've stood in the background, attending to the needs of others and claiming we have no needs of our own. We've shut off, for to long, the part of us that longs to be nurtured.
It is time, now, to claim those needs, to identify them, and to understand that we deserve to have them met.
What are our needs? What would feel good? What kinds of ways would we like others to nurture and support us? The clearer we can be about our needs, the greater the possibility they will be met.
Hugs. A listening ear. Support. Encouragement. The physical and emotional presence of people who care about us. Doesn't that sound good? Tempting?
Someone once said to me, "The eighties have been a 'me' decade. Now, maybe the nineties can be a 'you' decade."
My reply was immediate. "Let's make the nineties a 'me' and 'you' decade."
No matter how long we've been recovering, we never outgrow our need for nurturing and love.
Today, I will open to recognizing my needs for nurturing. I will be open to the needs of those around me too. I can begin taking a nurturing, loving attitude toward myself and by taking responsibility for my needs in relationships.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
Nature Girl
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Before recovery, I was totally unaware of what I "needed" to have a happy, balanced life. I was too busy trying to balance everyone else's needs and see that they were met.
Today I know when to take quiet time and just find inner peace. I can walk in the sunshine, read something soothing, or just sit quietly and talk to God and myself.
Today, I know when I need to get out and have some fun. I know when I need to be with friends or a support group or family and just feel the connection of spirits.
Today I pay attention to how I feel, and if I feel good, I use that opportunity to feel even better. And when I feel unsettled, bored, or unbalanced, I pay attention to why I feel this way and make good choices for myself.
Nurturing myself begins with being aware of my feelings, my emotion and my energy, then using that to take a path that will bring me to living life the best way I know how.
Today I know that I am worth that.
Hugs
Today I know when to take quiet time and just find inner peace. I can walk in the sunshine, read something soothing, or just sit quietly and talk to God and myself.
Today, I know when I need to get out and have some fun. I know when I need to be with friends or a support group or family and just feel the connection of spirits.
Today I pay attention to how I feel, and if I feel good, I use that opportunity to feel even better. And when I feel unsettled, bored, or unbalanced, I pay attention to why I feel this way and make good choices for myself.
Nurturing myself begins with being aware of my feelings, my emotion and my energy, then using that to take a path that will bring me to living life the best way I know how.
Today I know that I am worth that.
Hugs
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